Redefining Wealth with Patrice Washington

3 Signs Your People Pleasing is Leading to Burnout and How to Shift with Dr. Patrice Buckner Jackson

Purpose Chasers, this is an episode that you do not want to miss. This is one that I just know will move you to action and transformation. I'm thrilled to introduce our incredible podcast guest for today, Dr. Patrice Buckner Jackson, a beacon of inspiration and a catalyst for transformation especially in the world of burnout.In our captivating conversation, Dr. Patrice Buckner Jackson explores the intersections between people-pleasing and burnout. Dr. PBJ, as she's affectionately known, brings her wealth of wisdom and her own experiences to the forefront, where we can see the path that led her to extreme burnout and what she was able to do to care for herself and literally transform her life.With her latest (and fantastic) book, Disrupting Burnout: The Professional Woman’s Lifeline to Finding Purpose, Dr. PBJ embarks on a mission to disrupt the cycle of burnout and empower women to work from their heart. Her book goes into great detail, but we get a little insight into the stages of burnout and how you can determine where you are in this cycle.Join us as we uncover the telltale signs that your people-pleasing tendencies may be leading you down the path of burnout.Show Notes:[3:45] - Reject burnout as your birthright or assignment.[5:40] - Dr. PBJ had felt called in her spirit to write her new book Disrupting Burnout: The Professional Woman’s Lifeline to Finding Purpose.[8:28] - After going through Purpose to Platform and Command the Stage, she started to see herself outside of the box she was put in.[11:88] - Your brilliance is your superpower and your kryptonite. It can be bondage if you don’t have boundaries around it.[13:58] - She used to live a life to fit in a box created by others.[15:05] - Instead of recognizing our brilliance, we are constantly chasing the standards of someone else.[17:07] - Patrice’s energy has a different flow once she released her belief that someone else’s information was more valuable than her own intuition.[24:45] - Dr. PBJ worked in education for 20 years and climbed the ladder. But it almost crushed her because she hadn’t done the soul work.[27:51] - She describes the burnout she experienced that led her to crumbling.[29:52] - This is so common for high-achieving women in particular. The cycle of burnout is a real problem.[34:12] - Dr. PBJ explains each stage of burnout, starting with Survival.[36:17] - You cannot hide burnout.[38:11] - Take inventory and determine where you are in this cycle.[39:42] - Burnout might be all we know.[45:01] - With all that she has achieved, Dr. PBJ hadn’t been aware that this type of community existed.[50:37] - Grab a copy of Disrupting Burnout for all the signs and symptoms of overwhelm and burnout.[52:18] - Dr. PBJ shares how you can connect with her through a current tour.Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthRedefining Wealth AppPatrice Washington on InstagramRedefining Wealth LIVESoul DetoxDisrupting Burnout: The Professional Woman’s Lifeline to Finding Purpose by Dr. Patrice Buckner Jackson

Wisdom Point #9 - Could This Be Why You Don’t Trust Yourself?

You know, it's interesting how we're all obsessed with self-awareness, like it's the ultimate goal. But let's be real – it's not just about knowing stuff; it's about having the guts, courage, and boldness to do something about it.Think about it: until we tap into that soul awareness, we're kinda stuck in neutral. We second-guess ourselves, doubt our intuition, and end up going in circles. It's like gathering all this info but never going anywhere with it. Let’s revisit an episode called "Self Awareness is Not Soul Awareness," where we’re taking the step after gathering all the information: having the courage to honor your self awareness. Otherwise, it's useless.Show Notes:[1:58] - Self awareness comes from gathering information.[2:35] - Information without implementation is useless.[3:42] - A lot of us are taking action that is not necessarily in alignment with what we discover in our self awareness.[5:31] - We think that the gathering of information will lead to self actualization.[6:31] - We need a mix of self awareness and soul awareness.[7:42] - Grab a complimentary ticket to the Soul Detox Virtual Event.Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthRedefining Wealth AppPatrice Washington on InstagramSoul Detox Virtual EventSelf Awareness is Not Soul Awareness Full Episode

Self-Confidence if NOT Self-Worth with Jamie Kern Lima

Hey there Purpose Chasers! Today, we're diving deep into a conversation that's incredibly important for every high achiever out there: the distinction between self-confidence and self-worth. We've all met those go-getters who seem to ooze confidence from every pore (and maybe we’ve been that person, too…), but as we'll discover with our special guest Jamie Kern Lima, confidence doesn't always translate to feeling worthy on the inside.Now, if you haven't heard of Jamie, you're in for a treat. She's not your average entrepreneur. We're talking about the mastermind behind IT Cosmetics, the trailblazer who became L’Oreal's first female CEO, and now, you can also find her on Forbes' Richest Self-Made Women List. And now Jamie's latest book, "Worthy," hits shelves this week, and it's a game-changer.In our chat, Jamie's pulling back the curtain on why self-confidence isn't the whole story. We're getting real about how self-worth shapes every aspect of our lives, from the decisions we make to the relationships we keep. So, whether you're on top of the world or feeling a bit lost, this episode is for you. Jamie's got some eye-opening insights about why embracing your worthiness is the key to unlocking a life filled with love, success, and genuine wealth and fulfillment.Show Notes:[2:51] - I am worthy of love just as I am.[6:00] - In life, we don’t get what we want, we get what we think we are worthy of. Our self-worth is our ceiling.[9:05] - Sometimes we make decisions based on our self-worth without even knowing it.[13:07] - Self-confidence is based on the external. It fluctuates. It is how we assess our own skills and abilities.[15:03] - It is important to be ambitious and have self-confidence, but you won’t enjoy any of this journey without self-worth.[18:01] - Low self-worth shows up in three primary ways in your life.[23:20] - Realizing a self-worth problem is a catalyst.[27:02] - Valuing and building your self-worth is actually breaking generational cycles.[29:30] - Ambition linked to authenticity is beautiful. But ambition linked to achievement will lead to burnout.[32:31] - Even your relationships will be stronger when you know you are worthy.[35:32] - We cannot exceed our level of self-worth.[37:35] - We will continue to attract the amount of love from others that matches the love we have for ourselves.[40:26] - Self-worth is the one thing that will transform your life.[43:21] - Jamie is donating 100% of the proceeds of her book Worthy.[47:18] - When we don’t believe we are worthy, we will self-sabotage.Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthRedefining Wealth AppPatrice Washington on InstagramRedefining Wealth LIVERyka.com use code Patrice15 for 15% OFFWorthy by Jamie Kern Lima

Wisdom Point #8 - Compromising Peace to Be Liked? Listen NOW!

Welcome back to another Wisdom Point, where we are continuing our focus on how to stop people-pleasing! Today's episode is all about those tricky moments when we realize we might be spreading ourselves too thin to please others.You know those commitments you've made that you're not entirely sure about anymore? Yeah, I’m talking about those. And maybe these commitments served you in a different season. But maybe now… they aren’t. Reflecting on an episode from back in 2018 called "I'm Not Above Backing Out," we're revisiting the lessons learned about prioritizing our peace over people-pleasing.Sometimes, we just need a little reminder. So let this clip from “I’m Not Above Backing Out” serve as the reminder that you can say no to others in order to say yes to yourself.Show Notes:[2:06] - In order to focus on the 80%, we have to let go of the 20% that sucks up your time.[3:08] - What works for you in one season, might not work in the next season.[4:10] - I’m not above backing out. I’m not above removing myself from things.[5:39] - I will stop compromising my time, my money, and my peace to be liked.[6:12] - Sometimes we have to say no to others in order to say yes to ourselves.[8:45] - I am true to my word, but my words need to be in alignment.[10:34] - You can reflect back on the things you’ve backed out of or said no to.Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthRedefining Wealth AppPatrice Washington on InstagramI’m Not Above Backing Out Full Episode

7 Boundaries That Help Me Date Confidently

Hey Purpose Chasers! Welcome to a special episode all about dating confidently! It's the week of love, and what better time to dive deep into the world of relationships, boundaries, and self-discovery. After going through divorce, many of us find ourselves navigating the murky waters of dating once again, and let's face it, it can be daunting. But fear not, because today, we're breaking down some essential boundaries that can help you approach dating with confidence and clarity.As we continue with our theme of “stop people-pleasing,” it's crucial to redefine love as well. We're talking about having enough respect and honor in every aspect of our lives, including the boardroom and the bedroom. And you know what? Setting boundaries is a key part of that journey, especially when it comes to dating. Boundaries aren't about building walls; they're about creating space for healthy and fulfilling relationships to thrive.In this episode, we're exploring seven essential boundaries that can empower you to navigate the dating scene with confidence. From establishing observation periods to prioritizing peace over appearances, each boundary serves as self-care and self-respect. I hope this episode helps you discover how setting boundaries and honoring your needs can lead to a fulfilling dating life, free from the pressures of people-pleasing and self-doubt.Show Notes:[3:56] - I trust myself to choose the best relationships for me.[5:04] - One fear could be that you won’t see the signs. But you have seen the signs. You just didn’t trust yourself enough to acknowledge them.[6:55] - Boundaries are a form of self care.[10:54] - Boundary #1: Have an observation period.[13:08] - Boundary #2: No introduction to my child until at least 90 days in.[15:30] - Boundary #3: Have a list, but don’t share it.[17:45] - Boundary #4: Don’t assign titles too quickly.[21:21] - Boundary #5: Don’t romanticize. When people show you who they are, believe them.[25:46] - Boundary #6: Intellectual boundaries.[30:09] - Boundary #7: Choose peace over appearances.[31:58] - Adhering to these boundaries and starting with governing decisions will free you to enjoy dating.[33:17] - Detach from what people think about your list of boundaries.Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthRedefining Wealth AppPatrice Washington on InstagramRedefining Wealth LIVE

Wisdom Point #7 - You Need Governing Decisions

It is so hard to set and enforce boundaries or standards when you don’t have standards or requirements for yourself before any scenario even presents itself. Often, we find ourselves reacting to situations without boundaries for ourselves. However, the concept of governing decisions, as introduced by Sheri Salata, Oprah's former executive producer, helps us understand how fear and the need for validation can hinder our decision-making process.In today’s Wisdom Point, we’re visiting a snippet of an amazing conversation with Sheri Salata which is available to Mastery and Momentum members in full. Listen to her breakdown of the differences between governing decisions and specific decisions and how to make sure that you are the one making them. Show Notes:[1:59] - Governing decisions set up the quality of our lives.[3:30] - These are the kinds of things we most readily violate to satisfy somebody else.[4:30] - Specific decisions are the who, what, when, and where of our lives.[5:31] - Who is making decisions for you? Is it you?[6:37] - What does your soul want? Write it down and create your own governing decisions.Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthRedefining Wealth AppPatrice Washington on InstagramMastery and Momentum

How to Say “NO” Without Feeling Guilty

Welcome back, Purpose Chasers! This is an episode where we're diving deep into the art of saying no without feeling guilty. I'm thrilled to continue our exploration of the PEOPLE Pillar, focusing on the theme: stopping the people-pleasing cycle.Now, let's face it—saying no can be tough. We've all been there, juggling commitments and feeling torn between our own priorities and others' expectations. But guess what? You don't have to feel guilty when you say no. That's right, it's time to reclaim your boundaries and honor your own needs.In this episode, we're unpacking the power of setting boundaries and the freedom that comes with confidently saying no. From recognizing that your own limits and priorities matter to detaching from the responses of others, we're exploring strategies to navigate those tricky moments with grace and authenticity. And hey, it's not about shutting people out—it's about keeping peace within ourselves while staying true to our purpose and goals.We’ll go over the main things that will set you on a guilt-free path. Trust me, it's a skill worth cultivating, and with a little practice, you'll be well on your way to living a life that aligns with your vision and values.Show Notes:[3:25] - It feels empowering to say no to things that don’t align.[4:32] - It’s not on other people to enforce our boundaries.[5:24] - You can say no and leave people with their dignity.[7:30] - You have goals, dreams, desires, and purpose for your life. If in this season, you have to say no to more things to execute your purpose, there is nothing wrong with that.[8:45] - Your limits and priorities matter. Remind yourself of this when you feel guilty.[12:11] - When you don’t have a vision for your life, you’ll get sucked into everyone else’s.[14:45] - You can be willing to help, but it has to be in a way that fits in your life.[17:39] - Saying no is a muscle you have to build.[19:07] - What if you started to envision people accepting your no?[23:43] - If you say no and it's a problem, pay attention.[25:09] - Write a script and practice saying no.Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthRedefining Wealth AppPatrice Washington on InstagramFuture Personal Training App

Wisdom Point #6 - You Are Never Above Their Bad Behavior

The theme for this month on the Redefining Wealth App and in the community is all about the PEOPLE Pillar. We are really honing in on our people-pleasing tendencies and today’s Wisdom Point takes us back to a lesson I learned the hard way in 2019.People pleasing doesn’t just look like saying yes to everything. It also comes up when we are not honest with people when a season of our lives is up. And sometimes, we’re not even honest with ourselves. Maybe we know a relationship is over or has changed but we don’t want to give voice to it. We might be afraid of the change it means. This leaves us romanticizing an expired relationship and clinging to it for far too long.This lesson is always valuable to revisit. Listen as I am finally honest with myself and finally seeing the signs that people needed to take a back seat in my life.Show Notes:[2:01] - In hindsight, some lessons shouldn’t be as surprising as they are if we are honest with ourselves.[3:40] - Patrice realized that she was justifying behavior that wasn’t in alignment with her core values.[4:52] - You may be battling with yourself and have gotten signs. Justifying their behavior is not serving you.[6:54] - You are not above it. You are not the first. You are not the last. And you are not alone.[8:06] - Grab the Guide to Stop People Pleasing on the Redefining Wealth App.Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthRedefining Wealth AppPatrice Washington on InstagramFuture Personal Training AppStop Romanticizing Relationships Full Episode

Stop People Pleasing with Nick Pollard, The People Displeaser

Hey there, Purpose Chasers! Today's episode is all about breaking free from the shackles of people-pleasing and reclaiming your power to say no. You see, it's not about having a problem with saying “no”—it's about having a "yes" problem. We're here to help you flip the script, courtesy of none other than The People Displeaser himself, Nick Pollard.We’re leaning into the PEOPLE Pillar this month and the theme is Stop People-Pleasing. Together, we're zeroing in on stopping this cycle that's holding us back from the purpose we know we have.Nick Pollard, our guide through this exceedingly common problem, shares his hard-earned wisdom. From establishing your personal bill of rights to mastering the art of boundaries, Nick digs into the ways we can say no without guilt. As Nick candidly shares his own journey from people displeaser to empowered boundary-setter, you'll learn that boundaries aren't about being rude—they're about being honest, both with yourself and with others.Show Notes:[3:07] - I give myself permission to establish my personal bill of rights.[5:22] - Nick is The People Displeaser now, but this came from an epiphany that he wasn’t giving himself the things he needed.[7:50] - The problem is the same across all levels - people are worried about what other people think.[13:38] - When we learn throughout our lives that saying no is rude or mean, we say yes to everything.[14:42] - People will become accustomed to you saying no and when you do choose to say yes, it is far more valuable.[17:27] - Boundaries are misconstrued. How are you actually setting boundaries?[20:29] - Saying no doesn’t need an explanation.[25:11] - You have the right to change your mind.[27:56] - Things that are good for you in one season may be crippling in another.[33:32] - Love means being honest and you have to be honest with yourself.[36:30] - Boundaries are our own responsibility.[38:23] - When is enough enough? Nick says it is different for everyone, but instead of cutting things off, turn the volume down.[48:46] - Nick offers a Boundaries Bootcamp for eight weeks that will be available again soon. He is also beginning a mastermind that you can learn more about.Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthPatrice Washington on InstagramNick Pollard Boundaries Bootcamp@ThePeopleDispleaser on Instagram

Wisdom Point #5 - Don’t Block Blessings

Hey there, Purpose Chasers! Today, we're bridging the gap between the FIT Pillar and the PEOPLE Pillar. There's always a beautiful intersection where these two pillars meet, reminding us that we can't thrive in isolation. Growing up, I was taught to believe that asking for help was a sign of weakness, that other people don’t really care about helping you with your big ideas. But guess what? I've learned that's far from the truth. In fact, it's through collective effort and community that we truly flourish. I recently had a reminder of this truth while launching the Redefining Wealth App. Each time we say yes to collaboration, to support, we unlock blessings not just for ourselves, but for the communities we serve. So let's embrace the journey of stepping out of our comfort zones, releasing the "what ifs," and standing boldly in the power of "what is."Show Notes:[1:59] - Every time we say yes, we unlock blessings for ourselves and the people we serve.[3:35] - We are not always in complete control of those unsupportive beliefs that rise up every time we want to get out of our comfort zone.[4:38] - The “what ifs” will run you into the ground. But we need to stand in the power of “what is.”[7:31] - If we get stuck in the “what ifs,” we block blessings.[8:24] - Doubt doesn’t mean don’t do it.[9:06] - What do you need to release in order to be a blessing to yourself and others?Links and Resources:Redefining Wealth WebsiteThe Institute of Redefining WealthRedefining Wealth AppPatrice Washington on InstagramPeople Want to Support You Full Episode