Redefining Wealth with Patrice Washington

Mikki Taylor: You Can Keep Your Makeover

“Character is your billboard.” - Miki Taylor
This week we’re continuing the You Deserve More series in acknowledgment of Women’s Equal Pay Day. Each year, I lead thousands of women through 20 principles that help them use their God-given gifts to earn more money. (Learn more at iwillearnmore.com)
Today, I see so many people doing things just for the attention.
Women dress the part they think others want to see. They do the make over to try and make everyone else happy.
How many times have you seen Instagram posts of someone getting all dolled up, but they had nowhere to go?
When you really connect with these people, they are empty. They are uncomfortable, and in the end people just walk all over them.
You need to be you.
Be unapologetically you.
Wear the things you want to wear, not what you think you should wear. If you like bright colors, wear it with pride.
Having that confidence to be true to yourself will show the world you respect yourself. Then, when they see that they will show you more respect.
Whether we like it or not, people judge from a first glance. If they look at you as someone who tries to please everyone they know they can walk all over you.
If they look at you and see the only person you are trying to please is yourself, they’ll want to please you as well.
For this episode of the Redefining Wealth Podcast I brought on a truly wonderful expert who knows about proving your value through your actions and your wardrobe: Mikki Taylor.
Mikki is a popular writer, motivational speaker and TV personality. She’s known as the country's leading authority on beauty and style for women-of-color.
She’s also a media veteran for more than three decades. Mikki is Editor-at-Large at ESSENCE Magazine, and the president of Mikki Taylor Enterprises, LLC, a strategic branding, consulting and communications company.
She took the time to discuss powerful knowledge from her new book, Editor in Chic. Be ready for this one, because she throws out so much wisdom you’ll need to listen to this episode multiple times.
Download this episode today to learn how you can stay true to yourself and be treated the way you deserve.
“Why live in the shadow of who you are meant to be when you can be the real thing?” - Miki Taylor
The Cliff Notes:
Stop living the dress rehearsal life.
You have to acknowledge everything you bring to the table.
Address people by their name.
Use manners and say please and thank you.
Technology has changed our language.
How will we teach if we don’t demonstrate our values?
You antenna should go up when you’ve been asked to compromise who you are.
If you don’t own it, you have to practice it.
Real change always stems from within
When people hate on us, it’s a plea for help.
Faith is nothing if it’s not defining your life.
You don’t want to just go through, you want to grow through.
Queens don’t belong on well-being welfare.
You have the choice to treat your body like a temple or a trailer park.
You don’t need anyone to tell you what you need - listen within.
When you don’t take care of yourself, you’re teaching people how to treat you.
Have an unapologetic view of who you are.
Dress to entertain yourself and not the world at large.
“Your life should demonstrate you know who you are.” - Miki Taylor

Luvvie Ajayi: Rock Your Gifts

This week we’re continuing the You Deserve More series in acknowledgment of Women’s Equal Pay Day. Each year, I lead thousands of women through 20 principles that help them use their God-given gifts to earn more money. (Learn more at iwillearnmore.com)
Many of the women I know struggle with the fact that they don’t get the same respect as men. We know that’s true, because we can see it in how we get paid.
When you find out that you are getting paid less for the same thing someone else is doing, it can be a shock. Most people keep quiet. They might be too upset to say anything. They may be afraid that it will tarnish their reputation if they speak up.
The truth is, someone needs to speak up. That someone should be you, because you’re not the only one going through these things.
Standing up for yourself will create a domino effect. When others hear you speak up, it will give them the strength to do the same.
Equality starts with you.
On this episode of Redefining Wealth, I have such a sensational guest who knows all too well the importance of this: Luvvie Ajayi
Luvvie is an award-winning writer and digital strategist who thrives at the intersection of comedy, technology and activism.
A twelve-year blogging veteran, she's the voice behind the respected and hilarious AwesomelyLuvvie.com, where she covers all things pop culture with razor sharp commentary and wit.
Her first book, I’m Judging You, was a New York times bestseller.
She’s also an amazingly powerful, and inspirational, speaker.
She sat down on this episode and shared a time when she was treated unfairly, financially, at a speaking engagement just because she is a black woman. What adds insult to injury is that they reached out to her because of her fame and popularity.
We also discussed the importance of pushing through your fears, and how you can build the best relationships right from the get got.
Hint: You don’t start by selfishly asking for something!
I know this is going to be an interview you take a lot away from. Get your pen and paper ready and then download this episode to learn how you can achieve the success you want and get the equality you deserve!

Doreen Rainey: Face Your Fears

“The big separator of those who win and those who settle is what they do when fear shows up.” - Doreen Rainey
This week, we’re kicking off the You Deserve More series in acknowledgment of Women’s Equal Pay Day. Each year, I lead thousands of women through 20 principles that help them use their God-given gifts to earn more money. (Learn more at iwillearnmore.com)
Talking with people over the years, I have found that the number one thing that holds them back is fear. I’m sure you know that feeling all too well.
You may be afraid of failure. You may be afraid of what people will think of you. You may even be afraid of your own success.
Whatever it is, you’re no alone.
I’m afraid all the time. Every time I start a new project, every time I step on stage to speak, I’m constantly confronted with fear.
And I want to get one thing straight before I continue: fear is not bad. Fear is meant to keep you safe. Fear is meant to protect you. It’s completely natural.
The difference between someone who is successful and someone who isn’t, is simply that a successful person won’t give in to the fear.
When you face your fears, and start that new project it becomes the new norm. The fear will go away in some areas, but you have to face it before it will disappear.
One example of that for me was this podcast. I had so many fears, and one of them was, “What if no one listens to me? What if they find my voice annoying?”
I did it anyway, and this podcast has been so much more successful so much faster than I expected. And you know what else? It’s not scary anymore. In fact, I look forward to it every single week.
To discuss fears further, and exactly how you can get over them, I brought you a very special guest: Doreen Rainey.
Doreen is known for her no-nonsense, direct approach.
She challenges her clients to move past the obstacles and excuses that block their forward motion. Pulling on her extensive education and experience in training and development, communications, personal growth, entrepreneurship and authentic living, she provides the foundation for the courses, programs and events that deliver the blueprint to empower her clients to take action.
As Founder and CEO of the RADICAL Success Institute and the Vice President, Operations, Act Like A Success; A Steve Harvey Company, she is driven by a singular vision: to help people define success for themselves and have the guts to go after it.
Download this episode now and learn how to identify your fears, where they come from, and how you can overcome them to build the wealth you deserve in all areas of life.
“You have to define what you want for yourself and then get the guts to go after it.” - Doreen Rainey
5 Common Fears:
Fear of failure
Fear of success
Fear of rejection
Fear of judgment
Fear of what ifs
The Cliff Notes:
We have to manage our fears.
Fear is non discriminatory.
Success can bring more responsibility and judgment.
Those who are successful are the ones who move forward despite their fears.
Know where your fears are based from.
The worst case scenario of being an entrepreneur is getting a job.
Don’t betray yourself to make others happy.
Go out and do something big, which you already know you’re called to do, you’re just afraid to step out there.
The first step of clarity is to choose what you want to move forward with.
Realize that no one really cares about you.
The first part of being radical is defining success for yourself.
You don’t get what you want, you get what you believe.
Don’t internalize other people’s opinions.
“A confused mind accomplishes nothing.” - Doreen Rainey

Bless Thy Enemy: They Just Aren’t Worth the Energy

“If something being said about you doesn’t hold up against the truth, it has to be dismissed.” - Mikki Taylor
No matter who you are, you are going to have haters. The unfortunate truth is the more successful you become, the more there will be, and they louder they will become. So you have to be mentally prepared to deal with the noise as we talk about in the FIT pillar.
One of the most important things you need to know is that you cannot let them distract you. You can’t let them take you off the path of your purpose, or make you doubt yourself.
I’m sure we all heard from our mamas the cliche’ that “Baby, they’re just jealous.” There’s truth in that. Your prosperity brings light to the fact that they may actually be either doing something wrong or just unsatisfied with where they are in life.
Instead of letting your haters bring you down, you can let their negative energy raise you up. Know that they are only there to test you and try to knock you off course, but if you keep your head up there’s a testimony in the end.
With things like social media today, it’s harder to escape those haters. Know that you aren’t alone. We all have them, and if you haven’t encountered them yet, count your blessings.
But know they will be coming, so be prepared.
There isn’t a single successful person who didn’t have haters. The more important they were, the stronger their haters. Martin Luther King Jr., Susan B. Anthony, and even Jesus had more than their share of haters.
They didn’t let their enemies hold them back. They only fueled their vision, and it’s important you learn from their lessons if you want to achieve greatness.
On this episode of Redefining Wealth I break down how you can overcome the struggles that not only I have dealt with from enemies, but that I see happening around me every day.
I made this episode to give you hope and help you see the light so you don’t get pulled down by their darkness. As Oprah says, “We must transcend darkness with our light.”
Download this episode today to learn how to not only stay above those who want to keep you down, but also how to use them to elevate your purpose even further.
“A life filled with silly social drama and gossip indicates that a person is disconnected from purpose and lacking meaningful goals.” - Brendon Burchard
The Cliff Notes:
As you create wealth and prosperity there will be haters - don’t give in to them.
Your winning shows them the reality of what they are doing wrong.
Blessing thy enemy is more for you than it is for them.
A blessing is “a public declaration of a favored status.”
When people are focused on their priorities they don’t have the time to be mean and nasty.
Meditate daily on the truth of what is instead of the stories of what if.
Don’t get caught up in petty gossip.
You are who you are, don’t let your character shift because of who you are in conflict with.
What you verbalize you magnify in your own light.
Sometimes the battle is in your own mind.
No one grows being stagnant, we grow in the face of adversity.
You can’t fight darkness with darkness.
You need mental clarity to achieve the wealth and prosperity you want.
“Let your haters be your elevation.”

Dr. Daniel Crosby: The Best Thing You Can Do is Nothing

“Wealth doesn’t equal intelligence.” - Dr. Daniel Crosby
Finances can be a very confusing thing for people, especially when it comes to investing.
You might think you need to have a detailed game plan on where to put all of your money, and check on your stocks every 30 seconds to make sure everything keeps going up and be ready to sell the moment things start to turns. Not true.
The best investors set it then forget it. In fact, a Fidelity study contacted all of their top investors to hear their secrets about their accounts. When they reached out, you know what they discovered? The top investors fell into one of two categories. Either they completely forgot about their Fidelity accounts until they received the phone call, or they were dead.
Investing is the easy part. The hard part is controlling your day to day behavior.
One place to start is to stop splurging or listening to social media stars who show off their garage full of sports cars without giving any real advice.
You don’t know their success or how they got it. Money doesn’t equal intelligence.
On this episode I bring you a very special guest who does have intelligence when it comes to investing: Dr. Daniel Crosby.
Dr. Crosby is at the forefront of behavioralizing finance. Educated at Brigham Young and Emory Universities, Dr. Daniel Crosby is a psychologist, behavioral finance expert and asset manager who applies his study of market psychology to everything from financial product design to security selection.
His ideas have appeared in the Huffington Post, Think Advisor, and Risk Management, as well as his monthly columns for WealthManagement.com and Investment News. Daniel was named one of the “12 Thinkers to Watch” by Monster.com, a “Financial Blogger You Should be Reading” by AARP and in the “Top 40 Under 40” by Investment News.
We are fortunate enough to have him on this episode to discuss the importance of investing, what makes a good investor, and how you can successfully start investing your own money.
Download this episode now and learn how you can get in the market and help secure your future.
“You need to be process driven, not results driven.” - Dr. Daniel Crosby
The Cliff Notes:
Personal finance is easy, it’s applying the knowledge that can be tough.
The way you frame your finances has a big impact on how you use them.
Fear is a very short term motivator.
Motivate your financial decisions with love.
Purpose is everything.
It’s better to ride out investments as opposed to jumping in and out.
Women are better investors than men.
Men can be overconfident, which is why they don’t make good traders.
You need a financial advisor because people are always stupid with their own money.
You can get results for the wrong reasons.
Be your own benchmark for success.
Wealth does not equal intelligence.
Be an informed consumer of social media.
Do an audit of your life to evaluate what us elevating you and what isn’t.
Your financial success depends on your ability to do the most boring parts.
“The more people trade, the worse they do.” - Dr. Daniel Crosby

Birthday Q+A: Ask Patrice Anything

“My definition of forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.”
On this special episode of the Redefining Wealth podcast, I answer questions from all of you about the situations you find yourselves in. I really hope you take as much or as little of my perspective as you feel is valuable.
This episode was a birthday gift for myself. I don’t take your loyalty lightly, and connecting with all of you through a Q&A conversation made me realize just how much I have to be thankful for.
Download this episode today to hear how I learned to advocate for myself and become the person you hear speaking to you.
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“Even after all the accolades and success, what truly defined me was finding myself in one humbling position after another.”
The Cliff Notes:
What defines us are the humbling moments, not success.
It takes time to recognize the gift you have inside yourself.
Use affirmations like, “I deserve to be wealthy because of the value I add to others.”
Don’t let ego get in the way of your work.
Recognize that your incidents and failures happened for you, not to you.
Remind your friends that you’re there for them.
Live a life that matters and people will feel your legacy.
Sit your loved ones down and teach them how to treat you.
Decide not to decide anything when trying to be still.
Nothing positive happens in isolation.
Forgive yourself for letting betrayers into your inner circle.
Don’t close yourself off to anyone unless they give you reason to.
“If you’re pouring light into others, you deserve to be wealthy.”

You Can’t Be Selective With Surrender

“If you fool yourself into thinking you’ve mastered something, you stop doing the work.”
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One of the scariest and hardest things we can do is surrender. We want control, and think we know what’s best.
The truth is, if you want to get where you are going you need to trust in the process. Trust that you will reach the destination you want to get to, and allow yourself to travel the path you are being taken down.
The more you fight it, the more you are going to impede your progress.
Don’t just surrender in one area of life. Surrender in all areas.
That doesn’t mean give up. You still need to continue to show up and give it your all. You just can’t dictate the path you are going down.
On this episode of the Redefining Wealth podcast, I open up about the importance of surrendering and how it changed my life.
This episode was a tough one for me. Not because I didn’t know what to do, but because it’s so personal for me. I share a lot on this episode with you and I hope you learn from my life and my mistakes.
Download this episode today to hear how I learned to surrender the hard way.
PS, when you finish this episode let me know what you thought of it by clicking the link at the bottom.
“If you are too scared to surrender, you impede your own progress.”
The Cliff Notes:
The definition of surrender is to yield to the power, control, or position of another.
Many of us struggle with surrendering.
There’s no reason to suffer in silence.
You need to surrender in all areas, not just one or two.
Wake up looking for new opportunities.
Have a daily quiet time.
Look for the blessing that is to come on the other side.
We get to tell any story that we want.
You don’t have to have it all figured out. Trust the process and let go.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing.
“Your challenges aren’t happening to you, they are happening for you.”

Tai + Talaat McNeely: How One Couple Survived Financial Infidelity

“When I came up against this discrepancy in my character, it was tough to combat.” - Tai + Talaat McNeely
Everyone worries about their partner cheating on them, but there’s actually a different type of infidelity that is much more common and leads to just as many divorces: Financial Infidelity.
Most people don’t think about it, but when you lie to your partner about your financial standing or hide purchases or keep secret stashes, you are being dishonest no matter how you attempt to justify it.
Yes, even having that secret credit card to buy those shoes you can’t live without is deceitful.
A marriage should not only be about honesty, but working together for success. That includes your financial success.
I have a lot of people who tell me that their family always taught them to have a secret account just in case.
My response is always, “Just in case what?” If you are starting your relationship with an exit plan, maybe you need to reevaluate the person you are thinking of spending the rest of your life with.
The way your family treated money doesn’t need to be the way that you do. There’s a lot of things my family has done that I would be ashamed to do, and money is no different.
Don’t mimic what your family members do if it’s not supportive of the life or relationship you desire. Learn from their mistakes. If your aunt is giving you this advice, and she’s on her fifth husband, that might tell you something. If it’s your sister trying to help, but her husband is unhappy because he feels like a child living on his mother’s allowance, there’s a problem.
Take the positive aspects from other people, get rid of the negative, and consider the source.
On this episode of the Redefining Wealth Podcast, we are joined by a power couple: Tai and Talaat McNeely. These two started off their relationship on the wrong foot, financially, but overcame their struggles together.
Now they have a wonderful relationship that’s open and honest about their finances, and something they have learned to work on together.
Download this episode today to learn the mistakes they made early in their relationship, and how they learned to overcome their financial problems by being a team.
“Are you interpreting what your parents did with their money through the correct lens?” - Tai + Talaat McNeely

Grace + Ease: The Two Words I’m Adding to Every Goal This Year

“We don’t get what we want, we get what we believe.”
How many times have you got excited about something, then you felt too overwhelmed to even start? Maybe you thought it was too complicated, or that there were too many steps?
Most of the time we don’t achieve our goals because we talk ourselves out of them just as fast as we talked ourselves into them.
If you want to be successful, don’t make it complicated in your head - because it’s really not.
Let’s take this podcast for example. It started with an idea I was excited about. When I started thinking about how much work it was, it was overwhelming. I had to buy a microphone, I had to get software to record, I had to get it edited, find music for it, figure out how to get it published, where to get it published, get it on my website, etc.
It was easy to feel like I was trying to move a mountain, but I hired a coach (THANKS, VERNON ROSS!) and found it wasn’t really that hard. I just had to get started and the truth is when the ball is rolling it’s easier to move.
You just need to get started.
On this episode of Redefining Wealth, we discuss the ways we make things harder than necessary, and we find excuses not to commit.
Download this episode now and learn how you can overcome your excuses, and make your goals easier (and more fun) than binge watching Netflix.
“Progress beats perfection EVERY single time.”
The Cliff Notes:
Sometimes we hold ourselves back because we worry about the stress and burden our goals will bring.
Don’t talk yourself out of that million dollar idea.
Take your dream and simplify it down to something you can tackle one piece at a time.
Grace is the condition or fact of being favored.
Ease is the absence of difficulty or effort.
Nothing has meaning except for the meaning we attach to it.
Don’t give yourself all year to get things done.
Master fewer things as opposed to giving minimal effort to many things.
You have the resources to get to where you want to go - now.
Don’t be afraid to weed out people that aren’t a fit for you.
“Think of yourself as already being favored to succeed.”

Dr. Dennis Kimbro: Wealth is a Choice

“When you are the best at what you do you never have to worry about income because the marketplace will seek you out.” - Dr. Dennis Kimbro
Many times we become too focused on money. It becomes our goal, and in the end, that’s what gets in our way.
Wealth is not about money. Even money isn’t about money. The people who chase the dollar are those who come in last.
If you really want to reach a place of wealth and finances, the first thing you need to do is master your skills. Become so good at something that the world can’t turn away.
When this happens you’ll no longer need to seek out jobs or employment, the marketplace will start seeking you out.
The second is to stay committed to your passions. Becoming complacent and comfortable is what will cause you to be left behind. You need to constantly step outside of your comfort zone and push the boundaries.
Do you think Steve Jobs was ever like, “Ok, I’ve done enough?” No. He kept pushing the world of tech until the day he died.
On this episode of Redefining Wealth, we are joined by one of my mentors. This man’s book changed my life, and he helped me see the light during one of my lowest moments in life. His name is, Dr. Dennis Kimbro, and if you don’t know him, you’re in for a treat!
Dennis Kimbro is a best-selling author of five books, writing partner and master trainer for the prestigious Napoleon Hill Foundation and is on the faculty at Clark Atlanta University School of Business Administration. He is a recipient of the Dale Carnegie Personal Achievement award.
Download this episode to hear his advice on the mindset you need to achieve the life and financial success you want.
“The greatest gift we have ever been given is the ability to change our mind.” - Dr. Dennis Kimbro
The Cliff Notes:
Now is the time to make a difference.
What’s true of God, is true of you and me.
You are not broke, your circumstances are.
Mindset is key to healing.
If your heart is not in your throat at least once a week, you are living too far from the edge.
The worst place you can ever be is in your comfort zone.
The universe is rigged - in your favor.
Ego is any belief other than God.
You determine your fortune.
Don’t ever compromise your values.
Raise the standards in every area of your life.
Turn your should do’s into must do’s.
The passionate, committed mind will change the world.
Conviction is a force multiplier.
Every movement started with one individual.
There’s no financial deficit, there’s a spiritual deficit.
Believe and achieve.
If miracles aren’t occuring in your life, love is not present.
“The worst place you can ever be is in your comfort zone.” - Dr. Dennis Kimbro
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