Redefining Wealth with Patrice Washington

Bless Thy Enemy: They Just Aren’t Worth the Energy

“If something being said about you doesn’t hold up against the truth, it has to be dismissed.” - Mikki Taylor
No matter who you are, you are going to have haters. The unfortunate truth is the more successful you become, the more there will be, and they louder they will become. So you have to be mentally prepared to deal with the noise as we talk about in the FIT pillar.
One of the most important things you need to know is that you cannot let them distract you. You can’t let them take you off the path of your purpose, or make you doubt yourself.
I’m sure we all heard from our mamas the cliche’ that “Baby, they’re just jealous.” There’s truth in that. Your prosperity brings light to the fact that they may actually be either doing something wrong or just unsatisfied with where they are in life.
Instead of letting your haters bring you down, you can let their negative energy raise you up. Know that they are only there to test you and try to knock you off course, but if you keep your head up there’s a testimony in the end.
With things like social media today, it’s harder to escape those haters. Know that you aren’t alone. We all have them, and if you haven’t encountered them yet, count your blessings.
But know they will be coming, so be prepared.
There isn’t a single successful person who didn’t have haters. The more important they were, the stronger their haters. Martin Luther King Jr., Susan B. Anthony, and even Jesus had more than their share of haters.
They didn’t let their enemies hold them back. They only fueled their vision, and it’s important you learn from their lessons if you want to achieve greatness.
On this episode of Redefining Wealth I break down how you can overcome the struggles that not only I have dealt with from enemies, but that I see happening around me every day.
I made this episode to give you hope and help you see the light so you don’t get pulled down by their darkness. As Oprah says, “We must transcend darkness with our light.”
Download this episode today to learn how to not only stay above those who want to keep you down, but also how to use them to elevate your purpose even further.
“A life filled with silly social drama and gossip indicates that a person is disconnected from purpose and lacking meaningful goals.” - Brendon Burchard
The Cliff Notes:
As you create wealth and prosperity there will be haters - don’t give in to them.
Your winning shows them the reality of what they are doing wrong.
Blessing thy enemy is more for you than it is for them.
A blessing is “a public declaration of a favored status.”
When people are focused on their priorities they don’t have the time to be mean and nasty.
Meditate daily on the truth of what is instead of the stories of what if.
Don’t get caught up in petty gossip.
You are who you are, don’t let your character shift because of who you are in conflict with.
What you verbalize you magnify in your own light.
Sometimes the battle is in your own mind.
No one grows being stagnant, we grow in the face of adversity.
You can’t fight darkness with darkness.
You need mental clarity to achieve the wealth and prosperity you want.
“Let your haters be your elevation.”

Dr. Daniel Crosby: The Best Thing You Can Do is Nothing

“Wealth doesn’t equal intelligence.” - Dr. Daniel Crosby
Finances can be a very confusing thing for people, especially when it comes to investing.
You might think you need to have a detailed game plan on where to put all of your money, and check on your stocks every 30 seconds to make sure everything keeps going up and be ready to sell the moment things start to turns. Not true.
The best investors set it then forget it. In fact, a Fidelity study contacted all of their top investors to hear their secrets about their accounts. When they reached out, you know what they discovered? The top investors fell into one of two categories. Either they completely forgot about their Fidelity accounts until they received the phone call, or they were dead.
Investing is the easy part. The hard part is controlling your day to day behavior.
One place to start is to stop splurging or listening to social media stars who show off their garage full of sports cars without giving any real advice.
You don’t know their success or how they got it. Money doesn’t equal intelligence.
On this episode I bring you a very special guest who does have intelligence when it comes to investing: Dr. Daniel Crosby.
Dr. Crosby is at the forefront of behavioralizing finance. Educated at Brigham Young and Emory Universities, Dr. Daniel Crosby is a psychologist, behavioral finance expert and asset manager who applies his study of market psychology to everything from financial product design to security selection.
His ideas have appeared in the Huffington Post, Think Advisor, and Risk Management, as well as his monthly columns for WealthManagement.com and Investment News. Daniel was named one of the “12 Thinkers to Watch” by Monster.com, a “Financial Blogger You Should be Reading” by AARP and in the “Top 40 Under 40” by Investment News.
We are fortunate enough to have him on this episode to discuss the importance of investing, what makes a good investor, and how you can successfully start investing your own money.
Download this episode now and learn how you can get in the market and help secure your future.
“You need to be process driven, not results driven.” - Dr. Daniel Crosby
The Cliff Notes:
Personal finance is easy, it’s applying the knowledge that can be tough.
The way you frame your finances has a big impact on how you use them.
Fear is a very short term motivator.
Motivate your financial decisions with love.
Purpose is everything.
It’s better to ride out investments as opposed to jumping in and out.
Women are better investors than men.
Men can be overconfident, which is why they don’t make good traders.
You need a financial advisor because people are always stupid with their own money.
You can get results for the wrong reasons.
Be your own benchmark for success.
Wealth does not equal intelligence.
Be an informed consumer of social media.
Do an audit of your life to evaluate what us elevating you and what isn’t.
Your financial success depends on your ability to do the most boring parts.
“The more people trade, the worse they do.” - Dr. Daniel Crosby

Birthday Q+A: Ask Patrice Anything

“My definition of forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.”
On this special episode of the Redefining Wealth podcast, I answer questions from all of you about the situations you find yourselves in. I really hope you take as much or as little of my perspective as you feel is valuable.
This episode was a birthday gift for myself. I don’t take your loyalty lightly, and connecting with all of you through a Q&A conversation made me realize just how much I have to be thankful for.
Download this episode today to hear how I learned to advocate for myself and become the person you hear speaking to you.
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“Even after all the accolades and success, what truly defined me was finding myself in one humbling position after another.”
The Cliff Notes:
What defines us are the humbling moments, not success.
It takes time to recognize the gift you have inside yourself.
Use affirmations like, “I deserve to be wealthy because of the value I add to others.”
Don’t let ego get in the way of your work.
Recognize that your incidents and failures happened for you, not to you.
Remind your friends that you’re there for them.
Live a life that matters and people will feel your legacy.
Sit your loved ones down and teach them how to treat you.
Decide not to decide anything when trying to be still.
Nothing positive happens in isolation.
Forgive yourself for letting betrayers into your inner circle.
Don’t close yourself off to anyone unless they give you reason to.
“If you’re pouring light into others, you deserve to be wealthy.”

Marshawn Evans Daniels: It’s Time to Believe Bigger

“The goal is not to climb mountains. The goal is to move mountains.” - Marshawn Evans Daniels
Being successful can become an addiction.
If you’re not careful, you can spend your life striving to get the title, the money, the esteem or whatever you’re striving to check off your list, but achieving any of those things doesn’t necessarily equate to living in your purpose.
For many, discovering their purpose isn’t easy, though. It takes a lot of work, and the truth is it can feel like one of your greatest challenges. Especially because no one can “help you” find your purpose, they can only help you become aware of it.
You also can’t find your purpose intellectually. You can’t lock yourself in a room and think about your life, your experiences, and go “Oh, yeah. Here’s what I’m going to do to change the world.”
That’s never worked for anyone, ever, and it certainly isn’t enough to work for you.
To find your purpose you have to get out in the world. You have to get into the trenches, surround yourself with people and see how you impact their lives.
On this episode of Redefining Wealth, we are joined by the best person to help you become aware of your purpose: Marshawn Evans Daniels. Marshawn is a Reinvention Strategist, Millionaire Business Owner, Mentor, Best-Selling Author, TV Personality, Wife and Faith-Walker.
Download this episode today to hear her inspirational story and what it takes to find your purpose in this world.
“Purpose is more about personality then it is profession.”
- Marshawn Evans Daniels
The Cliff Notes:
There are two drivers: pleasure or pain.
God did not design you to succeed. He designed you to be capable of winning.
How are you naturally designed to impact, influence, and make the lives of other people better?
Purpose is not an intellectual exercise.
Your purpose is more about your personality than your profession.
You can be whatever you think you can if you first think you can.
Our gifts are great clues into who we should become.
We don’t take the time to work on ourselves.
Our lives are a message and designed to teach.
Bigger decisions take you into a bigger life.
People wrestle with God over the steering wheel.
You don’t figure it out intellectually.
When you believe bigger, the answer will be clearer.
We are taught to be risk managers, not how to be bold.
“Purpose is not an intellectual exercise, and it is not a checklist.” - Marshawn Evans

You Can’t Be Selective With Surrender

“If you fool yourself into thinking you’ve mastered something, you stop doing the work.”
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One of the scariest and hardest things we can do is surrender. We want control, and think we know what’s best.
The truth is, if you want to get where you are going you need to trust in the process. Trust that you will reach the destination you want to get to, and allow yourself to travel the path you are being taken down.
The more you fight it, the more you are going to impede your progress.
Don’t just surrender in one area of life. Surrender in all areas.
That doesn’t mean give up. You still need to continue to show up and give it your all. You just can’t dictate the path you are going down.
On this episode of the Redefining Wealth podcast, I open up about the importance of surrendering and how it changed my life.
This episode was a tough one for me. Not because I didn’t know what to do, but because it’s so personal for me. I share a lot on this episode with you and I hope you learn from my life and my mistakes.
Download this episode today to hear how I learned to surrender the hard way.
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“If you are too scared to surrender, you impede your own progress.”
The Cliff Notes:
The definition of surrender is to yield to the power, control, or position of another.
Many of us struggle with surrendering.
There’s no reason to suffer in silence.
You need to surrender in all areas, not just one or two.
Wake up looking for new opportunities.
Have a daily quiet time.
Look for the blessing that is to come on the other side.
We get to tell any story that we want.
You don’t have to have it all figured out. Trust the process and let go.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing.
“Your challenges aren’t happening to you, they are happening for you.”

Tai + Talaat McNeely: How One Couple Survived Financial Infidelity

“When I came up against this discrepancy in my character, it was tough to combat.” - Tai + Talaat McNeely
Everyone worries about their partner cheating on them, but there’s actually a different type of infidelity that is much more common and leads to just as many divorces: Financial Infidelity.
Most people don’t think about it, but when you lie to your partner about your financial standing or hide purchases or keep secret stashes, you are being dishonest no matter how you attempt to justify it.
Yes, even having that secret credit card to buy those shoes you can’t live without is deceitful.
A marriage should not only be about honesty, but working together for success. That includes your financial success.
I have a lot of people who tell me that their family always taught them to have a secret account just in case.
My response is always, “Just in case what?” If you are starting your relationship with an exit plan, maybe you need to reevaluate the person you are thinking of spending the rest of your life with.
The way your family treated money doesn’t need to be the way that you do. There’s a lot of things my family has done that I would be ashamed to do, and money is no different.
Don’t mimic what your family members do if it’s not supportive of the life or relationship you desire. Learn from their mistakes. If your aunt is giving you this advice, and she’s on her fifth husband, that might tell you something. If it’s your sister trying to help, but her husband is unhappy because he feels like a child living on his mother’s allowance, there’s a problem.
Take the positive aspects from other people, get rid of the negative, and consider the source.
On this episode of the Redefining Wealth Podcast, we are joined by a power couple: Tai and Talaat McNeely. These two started off their relationship on the wrong foot, financially, but overcame their struggles together.
Now they have a wonderful relationship that’s open and honest about their finances, and something they have learned to work on together.
Download this episode today to learn the mistakes they made early in their relationship, and how they learned to overcome their financial problems by being a team.
“Are you interpreting what your parents did with their money through the correct lens?” - Tai + Talaat McNeely

Grace + Ease: The Two Words I’m Adding to Every Goal This Year

“We don’t get what we want, we get what we believe.”
How many times have you got excited about something, then you felt too overwhelmed to even start? Maybe you thought it was too complicated, or that there were too many steps?
Most of the time we don’t achieve our goals because we talk ourselves out of them just as fast as we talked ourselves into them.
If you want to be successful, don’t make it complicated in your head - because it’s really not.
Let’s take this podcast for example. It started with an idea I was excited about. When I started thinking about how much work it was, it was overwhelming. I had to buy a microphone, I had to get software to record, I had to get it edited, find music for it, figure out how to get it published, where to get it published, get it on my website, etc.
It was easy to feel like I was trying to move a mountain, but I hired a coach (THANKS, VERNON ROSS!) and found it wasn’t really that hard. I just had to get started and the truth is when the ball is rolling it’s easier to move.
You just need to get started.
On this episode of Redefining Wealth, we discuss the ways we make things harder than necessary, and we find excuses not to commit.
Download this episode now and learn how you can overcome your excuses, and make your goals easier (and more fun) than binge watching Netflix.
“Progress beats perfection EVERY single time.”
The Cliff Notes:
Sometimes we hold ourselves back because we worry about the stress and burden our goals will bring.
Don’t talk yourself out of that million dollar idea.
Take your dream and simplify it down to something you can tackle one piece at a time.
Grace is the condition or fact of being favored.
Ease is the absence of difficulty or effort.
Nothing has meaning except for the meaning we attach to it.
Don’t give yourself all year to get things done.
Master fewer things as opposed to giving minimal effort to many things.
You have the resources to get to where you want to go - now.
Don’t be afraid to weed out people that aren’t a fit for you.
“Think of yourself as already being favored to succeed.”

Dr. Dennis Kimbro: Wealth is a Choice

“When you are the best at what you do you never have to worry about income because the marketplace will seek you out.” - Dr. Dennis Kimbro
Many times we become too focused on money. It becomes our goal, and in the end, that’s what gets in our way.
Wealth is not about money. Even money isn’t about money. The people who chase the dollar are those who come in last.
If you really want to reach a place of wealth and finances, the first thing you need to do is master your skills. Become so good at something that the world can’t turn away.
When this happens you’ll no longer need to seek out jobs or employment, the marketplace will start seeking you out.
The second is to stay committed to your passions. Becoming complacent and comfortable is what will cause you to be left behind. You need to constantly step outside of your comfort zone and push the boundaries.
Do you think Steve Jobs was ever like, “Ok, I’ve done enough?” No. He kept pushing the world of tech until the day he died.
On this episode of Redefining Wealth, we are joined by one of my mentors. This man’s book changed my life, and he helped me see the light during one of my lowest moments in life. His name is, Dr. Dennis Kimbro, and if you don’t know him, you’re in for a treat!
Dennis Kimbro is a best-selling author of five books, writing partner and master trainer for the prestigious Napoleon Hill Foundation and is on the faculty at Clark Atlanta University School of Business Administration. He is a recipient of the Dale Carnegie Personal Achievement award.
Download this episode to hear his advice on the mindset you need to achieve the life and financial success you want.
“The greatest gift we have ever been given is the ability to change our mind.” - Dr. Dennis Kimbro
The Cliff Notes:
Now is the time to make a difference.
What’s true of God, is true of you and me.
You are not broke, your circumstances are.
Mindset is key to healing.
If your heart is not in your throat at least once a week, you are living too far from the edge.
The worst place you can ever be is in your comfort zone.
The universe is rigged - in your favor.
Ego is any belief other than God.
You determine your fortune.
Don’t ever compromise your values.
Raise the standards in every area of your life.
Turn your should do’s into must do’s.
The passionate, committed mind will change the world.
Conviction is a force multiplier.
Every movement started with one individual.
There’s no financial deficit, there’s a spiritual deficit.
Believe and achieve.
If miracles aren’t occuring in your life, love is not present.
“The worst place you can ever be is in your comfort zone.” - Dr. Dennis Kimbro
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Winn Claybaugh: Company Culture Begins with You

“Anytime there is a problem in an organization, it’s because relationships broke down.” - Winn Claybaugh
People want to work with people who give back. It’s true. In fact, 85% of consumers will choose a to spend money with a company that is committed to giving back to its communities.
It’s never too late to start giving, but it’s also never too early. If you are looking to build a business the sooner you find a way to align yourself with the community, the quicker your success will be.
Not only will people want to buy from you, but people will also want to work with you. That brings us to the next point.
Being a good leader is also about making sure the people around you are happy. You need to come in to work in a great mood, and everyone else on your team can thrive knowing they're supported.
Give people around you permission to be friendly and social. There’s no reason for things to be stiff and awkward.
Lastly know that when there is a problem that means there’s a relationship problem. People aren’t happy and they aren’t communicating properly. So instead of screaming at people, and barking orders, take the time to fix their inner problems.
That’s all anyone really wants, to be respected as human beings with feelings.
On this episode of Redefining Wealth we bring you a living legend in business. Winn Claybaugh is the Co-Founder, Co-Owner, and Dean of Paul Mitchell The School.
Winn is widely recognized as a leader in his industry. In 2004, the North American Hairstyling Awards (NAHA) named him to their Hall of Leaders for his outstanding contributions to the hair and beauty industry. American Salon magazine called him a mover of mountains and Mr. Fix-it in their November 1997 Super Heroes section.
A tireless and enthusiastic volunteer, Winn has served as vice president of the AIDS Relief Fund for Beauty Professionals, and he has been involved in other fundraising projects for City of Hope and Leeza Gibbons'.
In the past three years, Winn and the Paul Mitchell Schools have raised over $1 million for multiple charitable organizations, including the American Cancer Society, the Larry King Cardiac Foundation, Leeza's Place, Katrina relief, AIDS causes, City of Hope, and more.
Download this episode of Redefining Wealth to learn exactly how to create a company culture that will skyrocket your business.
“Always be in a great mood. Fake it when necessary.” - Winn Claybaugh
The Cliff Notes:
Don’t compare yourself to your competitors.
Follow your own heart.
Create a space where people just want to be there.
You don’t have to train people to hug, you just have to give them permission.
There are myths that you have to be mean to your employees.
Be nice to yourself first.
Think about your needs, not just everyone else’s.
Make sure your walks lines up with your talk.
How you live your life is what should be sending your message.
Choose the people in your life slow.
And employee who won’t do something means there is an attitude problem.
An employee that can’t do something means there is training needed.
People don’t run your company, systems run your company.
Write things down so they know what’s expected of them.
The purpose of a meeting should be to communicate and connect as a team.
Be attracted to people who are famous and successful for the right reasons.
If you can’t apply what you’ve been learning, it means nothing.
Don’t sit on information, immediately put it into action.
Progress beats perfection.
Faith gives you hope.
85% of consumers will choose a to spend money with a company that is committed to giving back to its communities.
People want to work for a company that is globally aware.
“I just say yes and figure it out later.” - Winn Claybaugh

Tera Carissa Hodges: History Does Not Dictate Destiny

“You have to remain in the present when you dream” - Tera Carissa Hodges
Don’t let people lie to you, there are haters out there. The more you chase your purpose, the more they will appear.
One thing you can’t let them do is take you away from your purpose. It’s important to stay strong, know who you are, and be confident in your mission.
And if you’re not where you want to be in life yet, remember that you can always rebound from anything. After the recession, I was literally scraping change off the street. Now, today, my life is wealthier than ever in all aspects.
All you have to do is be willing to grow and evolve. And along your journey, just remember what our amazing guest on this episode says - “you can not have a resurrection without a crucifixion.”
Speaking of our guest, we are joined by one of the most powerful speakers I’ve ever been blessed to be around, Tera Carissa Hodges. I’ve been following Tera for quite some time, and it truly is an honor to share her with you.
Tera enjoys being of service to all mankind. She’s an empowerment champion through her speaking, media appearances, coaching, and mentoring. She’s always helping people become empowered, despite their past and mistakes is her passion. She enjoys serving the community through outreach initiatives and organizations she supports.
From her Life Now Luncheons were she encourages women of all ages to press pass their pain and live their best life now, to anti-bullying campaigns for teens, and more, she travels extensively domestically and internationally to minister in speaking, media interviews and more.
Tera is a woman of many accomplishments and mistakes, her motto is: We all make mistakes. But we don't have to allow our mistakes to make us. Move on and GROW FORWARD.
Download this episode today to hear how you can grow, deal with haters, and be more in touch with your spiritual side along the way.
“Your past will point you in the direction of your millions.” - Tera Carissa Hodges
The Cliff Notes:
There are haters in the world, and you have to know who you are to be confident in the battle.
You also need to know who you are not.
You can not have a resurrection without a crucifixion.
When you do purpose work, not just busy work, you are going to come under attack.
Your past will identify the audience who is not only willing to receive you but is willing to pay for you.
You can rebound from anything.
When you bash other people’s past it’s because you can’t accept your past.
Learn to recognize what’s worth fighting, and what’s worth leaving alone.
If you want to read sections of the Bible, focus on Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John.
It’s important to be willing to grow and evolve.
Just because you start in one place, spiritually, doesn’t mean you have to stay there.
Loyalty has an expiration date.
Your past, pain and passion will help you define your purpose.
Pay attention to the people who have a problem with you saying no.
No one who is successful has had an easy past, everyone has had to go through something.
“There’s no shame in your journey.” - Tera Carissa Hodges