Elijah Frazier: You Can Turn This Around

Elijah Frazier is an inspiration. At one point in his life things weren’t going his way even though he changed the people around him and geographical areas. He finally came to the realization that he was the problem and knew it was time to do a 180 in his life. Now he is a successful entrepreneur, filmmaker, speaker, and author who thrives by living the purpose he was meant to live. We are so fortunate to have him here today to share his wisdom and brutal honesty.

Episode Summary:

Before we get going on today’s show, I'm going to let you know that I'll be doing an Instagram video on each of our pillars. If you are new to the show or you would like a refresher on the pillars, please be sure to follow me on Instagram. . . This is such a fun episode. Elijah drops knowledge bombs and wisdom at every turn of this show. He gives wonderful examples and has a unique perspective on how we should live our purpose and serve each other.

CLIFF NOTES

• Sometimes what we think we need isn’t actually what we need.
• If the same thing keeps happening in your life, you are the one who needs to be turned around.
• The very moment Elijah took accountability for his actions, his life and his relationships turned around.
• It’s important to take account of what is coming in to your life.
• We need to be careful about what we allow into our spirit and our soul the same way we're careful about what we allow into our bodies.
• If you want to be as successful as you can be, discover the purpose that was created for you.
• We were chosen and born to let other people know how valuable they are.
• Even if you are afraid, you can still do it. Chase after your success, not other people’s.

Quotes from the show:

“The pillars will help you create a stronger foundation that your strategy can stand on.” - Patrice Washington

“A lot of times we find ourselves in a position where we think we need one thing, but it's actually something quite different.” - Elijah Frazier

“A lot of what we need comes from the foundation of who we are.” - Elijah Frazier

“If we tap into who we really are, then we would know who we are bringing to the table is really enough.” - Elijah Frazier

“Don't be surprised if the answer in your life is something completely different than what you expected.” - Elijah Frazier

“If I'm 100% honest with myself, I know I'll get to where I'm going.” - Elijah Frazier

“If the same thing keeps happening in different places, take a look in the mirror.” - Elijah Frazier

“What would happen if you really turn around and put the work in?” - Elijah Frazier

“Take credit for the good and take credit for the bad and act accordingly.” - Elijah Frazier

“Play into the purpose of your life.” - Elijah Frazier

“Before you were created your purpose was created.” - Elijah Frazier

“People struggle with seeing value within themselves.” - Elijah Frazier

“Open the gifts that were given to you.” - Elijah Frazier

Elijah’s Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

Define Success:

Purpose.

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

Fulfillment and purpose.

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

Shut up and Ignore Everybody

Fill-in the Blanks… “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Elijah Frazier and the truth about wealth is that it is identity and purpose and being fulfilled.”

Links:

Thrive Conference Making Money Matter

Confidence Activated

One-Eighty

Elijah Frazier on Facebook

Elijah Frazier on Instagram

Elijah Frazier on Twitter

Made for More Elijah@18Y.com

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Dr. Nicole B. Washington: Functioning Doesn’t Mean Fulfilled

Dr. Nicole B. Washington is a board certified psychiatrist, speaker, author, and consultant. She helps high functioning individuals get help with issues around mental health. A large area of her focus is on physician mental health and dealing with the stigma around mental illness. She is the chief medical officer of Elocin Psychiatric Services and is passionate about corporate mental health. Dr. Nicole is the host of The C-Suite Confidant Podcast and the author of From Introspection to Action: The High-Level Professional's 28 Day Journey to Improving Mental Health.

Episode Summary:

May is Mental Health Awareness Month and I am so glad to have Dr. Nicole B. Washington here to talk about how we all need to be conscious of our mental health and not be afraid to seek help when we need it. We unpack how and why high functioning individuals put so much stress on themselves and what to do about it, as well as, why you must give yourself permission to be broken and not put arbitrary rules on yourself. Dr. Nicole shares tips for focusing on the positive, celebrating achievements and what true self care routines look like.

CLIFF NOTES

• After experiencing panic issues, Dr. Nicole realized that physicians and high functioning individuals didn’t always have places to go to for help.
• Don’t hold yourself to unreasonably high standards and give yourself permission to be broken.
• It’s important to pause and celebrate yourself and your achievements.
• Be intentional about your focus and focus on the positive not the negative. Practicing gratitude can help with this.
• Create a brag folder to remind yourself of the great things you have done and who you really are.
• Don’t impose “should of” rules on yourself and make yourself feel guilty.
• Self care is important. Do something special for yourself once a week and something more special monthly. Get sleep and outsource.

Quotes from the show:

“You have to take time for you, because if you let yourself die or let your job kill you, your position will be posted before your funeral even happens.” - Dr. Nicole B. Washington

“None of us can have it all together all the time.” - Dr. Nicole B. Washington

“I can't do everything. I'm not superhuman. I'm just a person.” - Dr. Nicole B. Washington

“It's important of foster being driven, but also important to teach our kids how to rein that in.” - Dr. Nicole B. Washington

“Be purposely intentional about focusing on the positive.” - Dr. Nicole B. Washington

“Let it out and let it go. The key is not to hold on to that negative thing.” - Dr. Nicole B. Washington

“Imposter syndrome is along the lines of not feeling that you're good enough or that you deserve to be on that same level as others.” - Dr. Nicole B. Washington

“Just because I can does not mean I should.” - Dr. Nicole B. Washington

Dr. Nicole’s Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

Define Success:

I think success is defined as whatever goal you reach that keeps you fulfilled. Success is always changing. What I define today may be totally different a year from now, because I'm evolving and changing all the time. Set your goals. When you are fulfilled with where you are, you've reached success..

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

Family, faith, and love.

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

Think Your Way to Wealth

Fill-in the Blanks… “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Nicole Washington and the truth about wealth is that it is not defined by finances.”

Links:

Nicole B. Washington, D.O., MPH on LinkedIn

From Introspection to Action: The High-Level Professional's 28 Day Journey to Improving Mental Health

The C-Suite Confidant Podcast

Dr. Nicole B. Washington

Podcast Movement

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Dominique Brown: Be Radically Intentional

Dominique Brown is an entrepreneur and credit expert. He is the author of How to Fix Your Credit and the owner of the YFS Academy and Your Finances Simplified. He helps individuals and small businesses overcome their financial roadblocks that are preventing them from financial freedom. His motto is finances can be fun, and he makes everything fun. He believes becoming rich is a lifestyle choice.

Episode Summary:

April is financial literacy month, and this is the last episode in the confident money series. I'm so excited to have Dominique Brown on the show today. He is incredibly brilliant and yet super down-to-earth. He and I are in a mastermind together where he shares all kinds of tips about finances, business, and money. In this episode, Dominique shares his story and how budgeting doesn’t have to be deprivation, but how important it is to have a plan to work towards your goal. We also talk about credit repair and more amazing financial information.

CLIFF NOTES

• Get educated about money and finances, because you can’t help yourself or others without that education.  
• Have a spending plan or a budget. Write down what you want to accomplish and then plan for that.
• Dominique talked about fixing credit with people and then moved on with financial planning and investing.
• Don’t listen to credit myths like you can’t fix your credit on your own, changes happen instantly, and taking on more loans improves your score.
• To fix your credit, create a specific goal like buying a home and then meet the goals to improve your score for that purpose.
• Write down everything that is coming in and going out. Then pull your credit report and analyze what is negative.
• It’s not always about deprivation, sometimes you just need to earn more money.

Quotes from the show:

“When you have a child it changes everything. It changes how you think, how you wake up, and what you are motivated for.” - Dominique Brown

“The only way out of the mess for me was to get educated.” - Dominique Brown

“A family without a spending plan is a family without a plan.” - Dominique Brown

“People budget every day, they just don't write it down.” - Dominique Brown

“You have to meet people where they are.” - Dominique Brown

“Your credit score is a byproduct of your financial behavior.” - Dominique Brown

“Try your best and forget the rest.” - Dominique Brown

“The more specific you are about your goal and your use of credit the easier it is to get on track and stay there.” - Dominique Brown

“Credit problems typically happen from behavior.” - Dominique Brown

“You're not going to reach your goals by not starting.” - Dominique Brown

“Do you really want to win or do you want to look good losing?” - Dominique Brown

“I'm a huge fan of always walking towards something or striving for something whether it's paying off a debt or having a goal.” - Dominique Brown

“We all need to be well-versed about our money.” - Patrice Washington

“The foundation of money is taking personal responsibility.” - Patrice Washington

“The biggest fear for most people is just facing whatever it is.” - Patrice Washington

“If you're aware and disciplined, you don't have to go the route of deprivation when it comes to finances” - Patrice Washington

Dominique’s Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

Define Success:

Success to me is waking up everyday with a sense of purpose. What I mean by that is being excited about my work, the people around me, and I'm excited to accomplish that next goal.

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

Having the time.

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

The Two-Income Trap: Why Middle-Class Parents are Going Broke

Fill-in the Blanks… “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Dominique and the truth about wealth is you already have it in you. More money won't make you happier if you have family and can do the things that you want.”  

Links:

Wealth Can’t Wait

FinCon

The Two-Income Trap: Why Middle-Class Parents are Going Broke

The Bogleheads' Guide to Investing

How To Fix Your Credit

Your Finances Simplified

YFS Academy on Instagram

YFS Academy

Mint Budget Tracker

Who Are You Becoming

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Wealth Can’t Wait

David Osborn is a real estate investor, serial entrepreneur, and the author of a book that was life changing for me. Wealth Can’t Wait is a must read for anyone who wants to upscale their life and wealth. David has founded over 50 companies, employs exceptional people, and has distributed millions of dollars to his partners. He is also an educator who teaches having an abundant life through goal-setting. He is also extremely down to earth, and it’s an honor and pleasure to have him on the show.

Episode Summary:

April is financial literacy month, and I couldn’t think of anyone better to have on the show than David Osborn. His book, Wealth Can’t Wait is the current Pod Club book, and this is my third time reading it. The seven pillars in his book are very similar to the Redefining Wealth six pillars. We talk about planning, taking action, surrounding yourself with the right people, and being accountable. Wealthy people take purposeful action, and David really drives that home in this episode.

CLIFF NOTES

• Wealth is a CHOICE. You can decide to earn more, spend less, save more, and learn to invest that savings for growth.
• Don't you deserve financial freedom? Wouldn't it be amazing if you never had to answer to another person for the rest of your life?
• Develop disciplines that will serve you for a lifetime and make that choice to be wealthy.
• Learn to take risks and practice thoughtful measured risks. Avoiding risk makes it hard to get ahead.
• Don't fall into the know-it-all trap. Build knowledge over time and the status will come.
• Prioritize your tasks by A B and C. Then only do the As. List and prioritize everything.
• Become purposeful with your actions and focus on your air game, not your ground game or just doing everything that needs to be done.
• You have to be the CEO of the corporation of YOU. You do the most important stuff and hire people to do the other stuff.

Quotes from the show:

“Money is not rocket science.” - David Osborn

“You're not short on knowledge or capability; you're short on making a choice.” - David Osborn

“There's a lot of ways to get there, but you need to get discipline.” - David Osborn

“Have a disciplined, purposeful approach to building wealth.” - David Osborn

"Develop discipline that will serve you for a lifetime." - David Osborn

“Redefine what winning is for you.” - David Osborn

“You learn more from the failing than you do from the succeeding.” - David Osborn

"Care a lot less about more and care more about less." - David Osborn

“List everything you need to do 1-7 and then focus on the top 3 each day.” - David Osborn

"Am I taking the right actions right now that will serve me for the long term?" - David Osborn

"Wealthy people are so purposeful." - David Osborn

“Take a killer vacation every year whether you think you can afford to or not.” - David Osborn

"Wealthy and successful people are purposeful to their own agenda." - David Osborn

“Become the CEO of YOU, Inc.” - David Osborn  

"Develop discipline that will serve you for a lifetime." - David Osborn

David’s Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

Define Success:

Being able to do what you want to do, with whomever you want to do it with, whenever you want to do it.

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

Abundance, prosperity, and contribution.

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

The Giving Tree

Fill-in the Blanks… “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is David Osborn and the truth about wealth is that wealth is not a destination it's a process, The journey of wealth is one of expansion, personal growth, and miracles if you choose to follow it.”

Links:

Wealth Can't Wait: Avoid the 7 Wealth Traps, Implement the 7 Business Pillars, and Complete a Life Audit Today!

Miracle Morning Millionaires: What the Wealthy Do Before 8AM That Will Make You Rich

Jim Rohn

David Osborn

David Osborn Instagram

@IAmDavidOsborn on Twitter

David Osborn on Facebook

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What You Need is Confidence

I love having a partnership with Capital One. They recently did a study that found that 49% of respondents reported being someone confident or not very confident at all in the car buying process. They also found that 94% of respondents didn't believe that the process was completely transparent. Dave Kang is Managing VP of Consumer Auto Finance at Capital One and he’s here to give us tips and help us become more confident in the car buying process.

Disclaimer:

Thank you to Capital One for sponsoring this episode! This is a paid endorsement. All opinions are my own and were not directed by Capital One. To learn more about the Capital One Auto Navigator tool, visit CapitalOne.com/cars.

Episode Summary:

In honor of Financial Literacy Month, we’re launching a new series called Confident Money.  I want to focus on helping you “make money moves” with more confidence than you ever have. I know it can be intimidating to handle money from purchasing a home to investing in stocks and everything in between, but this month, my goal is to help you build the confidence necessary to make wise financial decisions in every area. In this episode, I share my ideas on building money confidence, so you can build the wealth you deserve. Then I have a conversation with Dave Kang about the car buying process.  

CLIFF NOTES

• You need to feel confident about money in order to build wealth.
• Clarity is what breeds confidence. Not being clear about the steps that lead up to the process breeds financial confusion.
• Ask why you are making this financial decision now and how it can impact the entire picture.
• When your decisions lack confidence, you’ve probably made a purchase from desperation. We want to make choices rooted in faith - NOT fear.
• Confidence increases when you have trusted resources. Always ask for help and get support in the areas that aren’t your strongest.

Here’s the big takeaway this week:

In order to make the best financial decisions you can and be someone committed to making WISE money moves, you have to think about how to boost your confidence BEFORE you get into the transaction.

We have to stop making emotional decisions and make the ones that make sense for the bigger picture.

Quotes from the show:

“To make great strides and build wealth, it really requires building confidence.” - Patrice Washington

“Ask why you are making this financial decision now in order to get clarity.” - Patrice Washington

“Look at how your financial decision is going to impact everything else in your life.” - Patrice Washington

“What is it going to take to make it to the end result without settling?” - Patrice Washington

“We want to make choices rooted in faith not fear.” - Patrice Washington

“Knowledge is one thing, but wisdom is knowing how to apply the knowledge that you've obtained.” - Patrice Washington

“Clarity will breed confidence.” - Patrice Washington

“We want to be confident proactive productive citizens and proactive and confident consumers.” - Patrice Washington

“A vision of Auto Navigator is to bring more transparency to the car shopping and car buying experience.” - Dave Kang

Ask yourself . . . “What decisions are being for me versus what decisions am I making for myself.” - Dave Kang

Links:

Capital One Auto Navigator

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REWIND: Faith Can Not Be Your Financial Crutch

As we kickoff financial literacy month, I'm doing a REWIND episode before we start the Confident Money Series, next week. I didn't record this week, because my heart is telling me that I can grieve and mourn even for someone I don't know personally. My husband and I were just at the store where Nipsey Hussle was shot. As someone who grew up in that area, it's just heartbreaking.

I will be sharing specific tips for the upcoming Confident Money Series. In this episode, I set the tone by going back to why faith cannot be your financial crutch. It will be a great foundation as we get into the Confident Money Series.

CLIFF NOTES

• Many of us have been raised to believe that money is bad or being poor is more noble. This can create conflicting beliefs.
• We can’t just be irresponsible with our financial lives, and then just pray for things to get better.
• There is a personal responsibility that comes with personal finance. Some things you just need to do.
• We can’t pray our way out of financial problems and predicaments. We should pray before we get into those predicaments.
• You have to know your own numbers. We are all responsible for what goes in and what goes out.
• You need to accept help when needed. Sometimes you need the help of someone else to get to what's next for you.
• Nurture what you do know. Words are powerful. You should wake up knowing that you are ready to manage your money and manage it well.

Quotes from the show:

“Whether people have great jobs or sources of income or not, they still tend to use faith as a financial crutch.” - Patrice Washington

“Your faith should not be your excuse for not being responsible.” - Patrice Washington

“There are some things that you need to plan and commit to not just pray about.” - Patrice Washington

“You can't be irresponsible with your finances, and then just pray for an intervention.” - Patrice Washington

“We don't have time to be irresponsible with our finances. Faith without works is dead.” - Patrice Washington

“There is a PERSONAL responsibility that comes with personal finance.” - Patrice Washington

“People often use their faith as a long-term answer instead of stepping up, taking responsibility, and doing the work.” - Patrice Washington

“Faith is not your crutch for not doing well with your finances.” - Patrice Washington

“You have to know your own numbers.” - Patrice Washington

“We are all responsible for what goes in and what goes out.” - Patrice Washington

“It's our responsibility to give God something to bless.” - Patrice Washington

“Financial success on any level comes from you taking action and accepting help where needed.” - Patrice Washington

“You should wake up everyday with the feeling that you are ready, willing, and able to manage your money responsibly.” - Patrice Washington

“You are ready to manage your money and manage it well.” - Patrice Washington

“All of the things you supposedly don't know about money are just a story that you have told yourself.” - Patrice Washington

“Start to change the way you speak, and you will be surprised how you start to understand things with grace and ease.” - Patrice Washington

“What you nurture grows.” - Patrice Washington

“What we have with money is a relationship.” - Patrice Washington

Links:

Dr. Daniel Crosby: The Best Thing You Can Do is Nothing

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Doubt Doesn’t Mean Don’t Do It

Even powerful and successful women doubt themselves at times. Doubt has also become a common thread with women in my community. Sometimes, we think that people who are successful never have doubts or fears. The truth is everyone has doubts and fears, it’s just that the successful people choose to push through those doubts and move forward. In this episode, I will talk about doubt and give you three actionable ways to push through that doubt.

I also have a big announcement about the Purpose Chaser Community. You can sign up for free to connect with like minded people. Next month is financial literacy month where I’ll be doing a whole series about money management and tips.

CLIFF NOTES

• People and women in general often think that people doing amazing things don’t have the same doubt and fears that they have.
• Don’t let doubt creep in and distract you from making decisions and moving forward with your goals and progressing towards success.  
• It’s up to us to decide that we are going to do whatever it takes to push through obstacles and our own fears.
• Doubt is normal defeat is a choice. It’s normal to have doubt, but letting it stop you is a choice.
• Let the benefit of the doubt apply to you. We give this benefit to others. It’s time to give it to ourselves.
• Write out the worst case scenario and realize that’s not the worst thing that could happen.

Quotes from the show:

“Give yourself the benefit of the doubt and remove this need for perfection and decide if the worst-case is really the worst thing that could happen.” - Patrice Washington

“Sometimes we have the perception that women or people in general who are doing amazing things don't have the same fears and doubts that we do.” - Patrice Washington

“We get stuck by allowing doubt to take root and completely distract us.” - Patrice Washington

“Your doubt does not mean that you shouldn't do it. Doubt does not mean don't do anything.” - Patrice Washington

“Decide that you are going to do whatever it takes to push through even pushing through your own fear.” - Patrice Washington

“Doubt is normal, but allowing it to stop you in your tracks is a choice.” - Patrice Washington

“God doesn't require perfection from us and neither do most humans.” - Patrice Washington

“Don't measure your reality against a filtered fantasy like social media.” - Patrice Washington

“Why do we give so many other people the benefit of the doubt, but cut it off when it comes to us.” - Patrice Washington

“People want to support you, but you have to allow the benefit of the doubt for yourself in order for them to do that.” - Patrice Washington

“Progress beats perfection on any day of the week.” - Patrice Washington

“Doubt doesn't mean don't do it. Who is served by not doing it?” - Patrice Washington

“The best thing you can do for doubt is to challenge it and go get a win.” - Patrice Washington

Links:

Mattie James: The Responsibility of Influence

Sarita Maybin: Ask for What You Want

Rachel Luna: Built to Survive

People Want To Support You

I’m Not Above Backing Out

Give God Something to Bless

Greatness Requires You to Expect Resistance

Results VS Resolutions: Commitment Makes the Difference

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Rachel Luna: Built to Survive

Rachel Luna is a good friend of mine and an entrepreneur, master confidence coach, speaker, author, podcaster, and a woman who tells it like it is. She helps women and ultra secure men find clarity and confidence to have the life and business of their dreams. She has overcome many obstacles in her life to find her purpose in helping people increase their sales and revenue through increased confidence and living with purpose.

Episode Summary:

In this powerful episode, Rachel shares some of her story and how and why she became a coach. She talks about how external issues can be solved by fixing the internal issues. We talk about active journaling, listening to god, having boundaries, not being a victim, and the realities of motherhood. We change the narrative around shame, because no one can shame you. Rachel also gives some great examples of having and enforcing positive boundaries.

CLIFF NOTES

• Rachel helps people become more confident in anything. Externally, people may think they need help with something, but internally it may be a confidence issue.
• As she overcame her problems and found a coach to help her, Rachel’s natural talent for helping others became evident.
• A coach provides guidance and asks powerful questions. A consultant or mentor gives advice.
• Actively wait on the lord to help you by seeking answers and praying and journaling. Take action and listen to God.
• Sometimes it’s literally doing the work to get past the tests that we are given. Doing work you love does not have to be laborious.
• Don’t see yourself as a victim. Take back your power and don’t squander your opportunity.

Quotes from the show:

People will admit they have a problem with sales before they admit they have a problem with confidence. - Rachel Luna

I have to get you in and then show you what you need. - Rachel Luna

You might be a high-functioning mess. - Rachel Luna

When you overcome your pain, people will want to know how you did it. - Rachel Luna

Everything that has happened in my life happened for me so I could help someone else. - Rachel Luna

Coach - provides guidance and ask the powerful questions - Rachel Luna

Consultant and Mentor - gives advice - Rachel Luna

If life was easy there’d be no reason to go deeper. - Rachel Luna

Actively waiting means you wait on the Lord and still do something. - Rachel Luna

Our faith will be tested from time to time. - Rachel Luna

The more you know God and his word, the more you hear his voice. - Rachel Luna

We won’t do the work, but we’ll want the reward on the other side of the test. - Rachel Luna

People get confused with what work means. Work doesn’t have to be hard and laborious. - Rachel Luna

Sometimes you have to give people no option but to sink or swim. - Rachel Luna

Before you cut someone off, offend them to their breakthrough. - Rachel Luna

As a coach I don’t get to make an excuse to allow my clients to make an excuse. - Rachel Luna

Do you want a breakthrough that will remain broken? - Rachel Luna

We have to get clear about our identity and who we are. - Rachel Luna

We are all built to survive. - Rachel Luna

Nobody can shame you. We allow people’s thoughts, reactions and words to . . . - Rachel Luna

Rachel’s Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

Define Success:

Waking up and being alive is a victory unto itself. It means that God has said I am not done with you yet, and you are still of service. You can still make an impact today. Success is yours.

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

People, relationships, and service.

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

Money, A Love Story

Fill-in the Blanks… “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Rachel Luna and the truth about wealth is it's limitless and available to me at any moment that I choose.”  

Links:

Mattie James: The Responsibility of Influence

Sarita Maybin: Ask for What You Want

Confidence Activated

Rachel Luna

Rachel Luna on Facebook

Rachel Luna on Instagram

@RachelLunaTV on Twitter

REAL TALK with Rachel Luna

Books by Rachel Luna

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Sarita Maybin: Ask for What You Want

About our Guest

Sarita Maybin is an international speaker and communications expert. She has worked with clients like Hewlett Packard, Kaiser Permanente, Los Angeles County, Department of Navy and the Las Vegas Convention Center and has spoken all over the world. In 2012 she was voted Top 5 Communication Speaker and has had the privilege of speaking on the TEDx stage. She’s also the author of If You Can’t Say Something Nice, What DO You Say? and an expert in confronting tough communication situations in a positive and fun way.

Episode Summary:

Today, we continue the Powerful Women Series in honor of Women's History Month. Our focus today is on the people pillar and how we communicate. We tackle the complex topic of speaking up when it  might not be comfortable and talk about the importance of finding a middle ground to say what needs to be said before things blow up. We discuss how to ask for what we want using the right language. This includes giving the other party a vote by using collaborative phrases and the power of positive communication phrases. This episode is full of practical tactics for both personal and professional communication.

CLIFF NOTES

• It’s important to speak up and say what needs to be said.
• Use phrases like, “I would appreciate” to make requests not demands.
• We need to just ask for what we want. Use a phrase like, “would you be willing to?” Use collaborative phrases at home.
• When giving feedback focus on the positive rather than the negative and use positive communication phrases like, “help me understand.”
• 3 Clues that you should pick up the phone instead of email or text. Sensitive subject, conflict, or when there’s a back and forth.
• Instead of a spellcheck do a “please and thank you check.”
• The 3Ps by Dr. Martin Sullivan: Don't take things PERSONALLY. It's not PERMANENT. Don't let it ruin the big PICTURE.
• We can use “if”, "as soon as" and "when" to set boundaries.

Quotes from the show:

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all doesn't work anymore. Sometimes you have to say what you need to say. - Sarita Maybin

We can all benefit from more truth tellers in the workplace. - Sarita Maybin

If we don't tell the truth, how do people improve?  - Sarita Maybin

You can tell people the truth and leave them with their dignity intact. - Patrice Washington

Say what you mean, mean what you say and don't say it mean. - Sarita Maybin

We can make subtle changes in how we talk to each other while remaining assertive. - Sarita Maybin

Instead of a demand, its okay to make a request. - Sarita Maybin

We need to just ask for what we want. - Sarita Maybin

Sometimes our biggest challenges are the communication in our own home. - Sarita Maybin

Give feedback with a positive rather than a negative.  - Sarita Maybin

We do a spell-check on email, but what we should do is a "please and thank you" check. - Sarita Maybin

Don't take things PERSONALLY. It's not PERMANENT. Don't let it ruin the big PICTURE. - Dr. Martin Sullivan

Don't take other people's problems on and allow it to ruin your day by taking it personally. - Sarita Maybin

When people say something negative it says more about who they are than who you are. - Sarita Maybin

Just because you're in a drama, you don't have to be dramatic. - Tim Storey

Participating in other people's drama is a choice. - Sarita Maybin

Are you the person who brightens the room when you walk in OR when you leave? - Sarita Maybin

Sarita's Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

Define Success:

Enjoying what you do and making a difference.

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

Feeling that you have enough for yourself and enough to share with others.

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

Lean In

Fill-in the Blanks… “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Sarita and the truth about wealth is it's possible.”  

Links:

Sarita Maybin

Get the 50 Phrases for Communication Text: Sarita Talk to 22828

@SaritaMaybin on Twitter

Sarita Maybin on Facebook

Sarita Maybin on LinkedIn

If You Can't Say Something Nice, What Do You Say?: Practical Solutions for Working Together Better

Mattie James: The Responsibility of Influence

Black Women’s Network

Sarita Maybin, M.A. -TEDx Talk

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Mattie James: The Responsibility of Influence

About our Guest:

Mattie James began blogging about her favorite products and outfits in 2008. Five years later in 2010, blogging became her full-time job. In 2017, she began her Mattie James blog where she talks about beauty, life, motherhood, inspiration and more. She also creates courses and has worked with well known brands like TJ Maxx, State Farm, Olay, and many more. She is also the host of The Mattie James Show and the Mattie & Chris podcast.

Episode Summary:

March is Women's History Month or what I call the powerful woman month. This month I am highlighting some dynamic women that I really admire. Mattie James is a brand influencer and entrepreneur who I admire and am thrilled to have on the show. We have been supporting each other over social media and it's great to talk with her. One of the things we talk about is giving ourselves permission which was also the theme of The Bliss Project that I just attended over this past weekend.

CLIFF NOTES

• Mattie is amazing at working with brands, but she also lives her life’s purpose with her work.  
• She evolved from a fashion blogger to a mom who began sharing more aspects of her life. People cared more about her story, than just about what she was wearing.
• For Mattie, everything is content as she authentically shares her life.
• People want to make their lives better. If you have figured out a way to make your life better, people want to apply that to their lives.
• To be successful, we have got to prioritize mindset. Our success mirrors our personal development.
• Assuming that something good is out of reach is a reflection of our mindset.
• Get to the reason why you want to be successful and ask who you want to help and who you want to make better.

Quotes from the show:

“When you first start blogging, you're going to be really bad at it just keep pushing through.” - Mattie James

“It was important for me to show my entire life to say that you can do this too.” - Mattie James

“People care more about story than they do about niche.” - Mattie James

“I tried to be as organic and authentic as possible.” - Mattie James

“I have the mindset that every single thing is content.” - Mattie James

“People want to make their lives better. If you have figured out a way to make your life better, people want to apply that to their lives.” - Mattie James

“Anytime I can sow a seed of light or betterment in somebody's life, because I shared a piece of mine, without compromising or diluting my quality of life, I'm happy to do it.” - Mattie James

“Any success that we have mirrors our personal development.” - Mattie James

“Ask questions from the right perspective in the right position.” - Mattie James

“We automatically assume that if something is good it's out of reach for us, not because we lack resources but because we lack mindset.” - Mattie James

“Until you get the mindset right no matter what kind of seed you put in there, you will still come up short.” - Mattie James

“When you put out content that is really you, your following will inevitably grow.” - Mattie James

“If you are with somebody who is willing to do the work, you will be good.” - Mattie James

“I get the feeling that Mattie is truly living her life's purpose.” - Patrice Washington

“If you don't evolve as these platforms evolve, you are going to have a problem.” - Patrice Washington  

“When you don't understand what your purpose is it's truly a struggle to prioritize your personal finances.” - Patrice Washington

“I'd rather have a real connection with my followers than to have millions of followers where no one is moved.” - Patrice Washington

“It's been so refreshing to see my husband do the work because he wants to be better.” - Patrice Washington

Mattie’s Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

Define Success:

Purpose realized and purpose actualized. Consistently working on making my purpose a reality. Anytime I fulfill my purpose, I am honoring anything and everything that is important to my life. My purpose is spreading the good news.

Me sharing with you how I restored my marriage is spreading the good news. Me sharing with you how I made six figures working with brands being myself is spreading the good news.

Anytime, I'm sharing the good news it's my success, because that's me realizing and actualizing my purpose.

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

Fulfillment, overflow, and purposeful.

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

You Are a Badass at Making Money

Fill-in the Blanks… “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Mattie James and the truth about wealth is it has nothing to do with profit and everything to do with purpose.”  

Links:

The Bliss Project

Mattie James

The Mattie James Show

Mattie & Chris

Mattie James on Instagram

Mattie James on YouTube

@themattiejames on Twitter

Mattie James on Facebook

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