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T-Kea Blackman: Success Doesn’t Make You Exempt

T-Kea Blackman: Success Doesn’t Make You Exempt

October 17, 2019

Mental health, like money, is often a taboo topic. It’s also a topic that has terminology associated with it that’s usually used incorrectly, namely equating mental health with mental illness and sadness with depression. In fact, many of us equate sadness with depression, but the truth is they’re very different.

In today’s episode, I sit down with T-Kea Blackman author of Saved & Depressed: A Suicide Survivor’s Journey of Mental Health, Healing & Faith and owner of Fireflies Unite, a mental health media and communications company. T-Kea and I go deep into the topic of mental health. We cover everything from T-Kea’s own struggle with depression and her attempted suicide to society’s understanding of mental health.

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About T-Kea Blackman

T-Kea Blackman, MPS (also known as Kea) is a mental health advocate, speaker and author. She is the owner of Fireflies Unite, a mental health media and communications company.

She is also the creator and host of the Fireflies Unite Podcast, a weekly podcast dedicated to bringing light into darkness–just like fireflies–by sharing the stories of individuals with mental illness who are thriving within communities of color despite the disadvantages and racism that negatively impacts their mental health.

​Described as an inspiration, her heartfelt and powerful story is a testament that anyone can thrive despite having a mental illness. T-Kea was diagnosed with major depression and generalized anxiety disorders and is a suicide survivor. She previously worked in the television industry as a publicist and production/talent coordinator.

Within her career, she provided support to TV One’s signature award-winning shows Unsung and Unsung Hollywood, BET’s Black Girls Rock!, The Soul Train Awards and BET X Youth Experience. Her diagnosis led her to use her communications and media skills to raise awareness for mental illness within communities of color.

T-Kea wrote her first book, Saved & Depression: A Suicide Survivor’s Journey Of Mental Health, Healing, & Faith to educate her community on mental health, as well it encourages them to seek treatment.

To follow T-Kea’s journey and listen to her podcast, visit www.firefliesunite.com and connect with her @firefliespod on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Saved & Depressed: T-Kea’s Journey

In T-Kea’s book she talks specifically about her own mental health, her healing process and her faith. One of the questions she asked herself while in the psychiatric unit of a hospital following her attempted suicide is:

“How does someone with an apartment, a car, two college degrees and a promising career end up in a place she was told was for crazy people?”

T-Kea believed the people who ended up needing psychiatric care were people who were homeless, who talked to themselves and who were in disarray. She didn’t know there could actually be something going on internally with these people and ultimately with herself.

In fact, she remembers saying to one of the nurses, “I don’t belong here.” And the nurse replied, “You’re here because your brain is sick. Just like you would go to a cardiologist if you were having issues with your heart. Right now, you’re here because your brain is sick and we’re working to figure out how to help you move forward.”

Even T-Kea’s aunt told her she didn’t belong there with “those people,” and I’m sure many of us would tell someone the same thing in an effort to be helpful and to encourage them to “snap out of it.”

But the truth is … it’s deeper than that.

“High achieving doesn’t mean you can’t have poor mental health.” – T-Kea Blackman 

The Difference Between Mental Health and Mental Illness

We all have mental health. The problem is, a lot of people use the terms “mental health” and “mental illness” interchangeability and distort what each actually means. 

So if you ask someone, “How’s your mental health?” There’s a good chance they’ll get offended. But everyone has mental health. 

“A lot of times people assume if they have mental health – good or bad – they have issues, but that’s not true.” – T-Kea Blackman

We all have mental health, just like we all have physical health. Mental health is a person’s condition in connection to their emotional and psychological state. So you can have good mental health where everything is great or you can have poor mental health where things like low self-esteem and depression start to creep in.

When poor mental health goes untreated, it can develop into a mental illness such as depressive disorder or bipolar disorder or even in extreme cases, schizophrenia. The biggest thing with a mental illness is it will destroy your ability to function at your maximum capacity.

Depression Is Not A Synonym for Sadness

This is another place where we use the words depression and sadness interchangeability and incorrectly. One of the things T-Kea covers in her book is how debilitating it is when you’re in a depressive episode and how some people perceive you as being lazy or they say, “You’re just sad” or “You just need to push through this.”

“When people use depression and sadness interchangeability, it minimizes the severity of depression and can cause more damage to a person.” – T-Kea Blackman 

When you don’t have enough money to get your car fixed, you’re sad or bummed out about it – this is an example of sadness. But when you find the money to get your car fixed, you’re usually fine.

In other words, with sadness, it tends to fade away once the situation gets better. But with depression, there’s a lingering sadness that actually never leaves – like a dark cloud that follows you everywhere. The other thing with depression is there’s often a loss of interest in activities you usually enjoy.

“If we understand that depression is truly a disability, we can have a greater level of compassion for those suffering from it.” – Patrice Washington

You can’t always see someone’s mental health just by looking at them. In fact, oftentimes, it’s the high-achieving, high-functioning, people who have poor mental health or are struggling with a mental illness. It’s for that reason we need to show compassion for those struggling and really offer support instead of judgement.

Now, I’d love to hear about your experience with mental health. How do you see mental health in society? Do you agree that the majority of people use depression and sadness incorrectly? Please let me know in the comments below.

And to find out more about T-Kea and Saved & Depressed, visit www.firefliesunite.com.

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Kachelle Kelly: Infusing Faith In Business

Kachelle Kelly: Infusing Faith In Business

October 10, 2019

When it comes to incorporating faith into their business, many business owners shy away from it, and not because they aren’t spiritual. But because, in many cases, they’re afraid to offend people who don’t share their beliefs. 

I’ve had that fear. People have even told me to tone down the “God talk.” But God is an integral part of my business and my life, and to ignore Him and my faith wouldn’t be right. It also wouldn’t be of service to my business.

In today’s episode, I sit down with Kachelle Kelly, author of Boss Women Pray and Boss Men Pray, and we talk specifically about how to infuse faith into your business and not feel like you’re pressuring others to believe what you believe.

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About Kachelle Kelly

Kachelle is a transformational speaker, author, corporate trainer, serial entrepreneur and thought provoker dedicated to changing the world one mindset at a time. She was able to successfully introduce the idea of merging faith and business in the world’s first prayer guide for entrepreneurs and corporate leaders, Boss Women Pray and Boss Men Pray, which created an international movement.

Even with the success of those book, Kachelle is most proud of her book Boss Kids Pray: ABC’s Prayers for a Child’s Life, featuring power words and prayers to cultivate children in today’s culture.

Kachelle has been featured in Entrepreneur, Black Enterprise and Sister 2 Sister Magazine. She, and the entire Boss Pray movement, also received recognition in her Houston, Texas hometown where she was is now the first female in the personal and professional development field to be awarded her own day. 

Boss Women Pray

“Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.” – 3 John 1:2

This verse has been one of my guiding scriptures since January 1, 2006. So when I opened up Kachelle’s book Boss Women Pray and saw it, I knew the book was going to be incredible – and it is.

As a woman of faith and someone who incorporates God into her business, I’m always surprised when I meet people who are equally surprised that I incorporate faith into my business. They say things like, “Oh my gosh, you’re so bold” or “I can’t believe you did that – I could never do that.” And I’m genuinely curious about why people shun the idea of incorporating faith into their business. 

For Kachelle, she thought it was going to be career suicide to even write Boss Women Pray because no one was mixing business and faith. After all, she didn’t want to offend anybody or assume everybody was Christian, and yet she wanted to be authentic and genuine to herself and her beliefs.

“I didn’t want to write a book. I simply wanted to read a book like Boss Women Pray and I couldn’t find anything similar to it.” – Kachelle Kelly

After Kachelle searched and searched and couldn’t find anything like what she wanted, she heard God whisper, “When you can’t find something you create it.”

Obedience to God

“Be obedient and God will give you everything you need.” – Kachelle Kelly 

For many people, they hear God but then immediately question what they heard or question themselves and then don’t do it. These are the people who know they want to write a book, but then take seven years to write it or don’t write it at all.

Kachelle wrote Boss Women Pray and Boss Men Pray in seven days. As soon as she heard God whisper, “When you can’t find something you create it,” she knew this was her assignment and she got to work. She’d didn’t question Him or her ability.

Instead, she got clear on what she wanted this book to be, mapped out each section and meditated on scripture. She asked questions like, “If I was starting a business today, where would I start? Where would I end up? What would be my problems?” And then wrote the content around those things.

“I was afraid, but I chose to be obedient because when you hear God, you go – you take action.” – Kachelle Kelly 

Excerpt from Boss Women Pray

When I was looking to completely shift my team, I kept going back to Day 21: Prayer for Partners and Staff. This prayer allowed me to get clear and intentional about who I wanted to go with me to the next level.

Now, you must tune in to this week’s podcast to hear me read this powerful, clarity-inducing prayer.

I turn to it time and time again, and I will continue to use it as we keep growing the Redefining Wealth team.

Many people are conditioned to pray when something is wrong. Kachelle’s book teaches us that it’s okay to pray specifically for our business. God is concerned about everything that concerns us. So it makes sense that he’d be concerned about our business. 

“We box God in and think he’s there only to keep us safe or protected or to give us peace. What we don’t understand is he’s there for everything.” – Kachelle Kelly 

How is your relationship with God? Do you share your business concerns with him? Have you been called to do something and it’s still a to-do on your list? I’d love to know in the comments below.

And to find out more about Kachelle and Boss Women Pray, visit http://www.kachellekelly.com/shop/.

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Kachelle’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“Peace.”

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

“Generational and real estate.”

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

Any books by Patrice Washington or Suze Orman.

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Kachelle Kelly and the truth about wealth is that wealth is within you – it’s peace. It’s however you define it, and it needs to be generational and leave a legacy for those behind you.”

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REWIND: Brandi Harvey - Fitness Is a Lifestyle

REWIND: Brandi Harvey - Fitness Is a Lifestyle

October 3, 2019

When it comes to the FIT Pillar of Redefining Wealth, it’s all about becoming your best self. It’s not about being the skinniest person in the room; instead, it’s about being the healthiest – both physically and mentally.

One of the things we talk about a lot is that many people have a vision for their life, but they aren’t protecting the vessel that’s needed to execute that vision. In today’s episode, I sit down with Brandi Harvey – owner of Beyond Her, a holistic lifestyle brand helping women of color reconnect to their internal power to heal and transform their mind, body and spirit.

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About Brandi Harvey

Brandi believes our personal freedom lies beyond the edges of our limits and so we should eat well, give a damn and move our bodies daily. Committed to teaching women how to care for and preserve their mind, body and spirit, Brandi understands women are pushed to the limit in their careers, family and everyday lives. Therefore, the need for women to restore themselves by creating daily rituals and spiritual practices is vital.

As a former high school educator and executive director to the Steve and Marjorie Harvey Foundation, Brandi spent the majority of her career serving children and families within the United States and around the globe.

Answering her life calling as a wellness teacher, Brandi launched Beyond Her – a holistic lifestyle brand helping women of color reconnect to their internal power so they can heal and transform their mind, body and spirit.

Brandi Harvey is a renaissance woman who believes the stakes of life are high., meaning we might as well bet on ourselves and play to win.

Seeing Myself Become My Best Self

Brandi’s journey into health began when she went home for spring break her sophomore year of college. When she was home, her dad loving called her his “fluffy girl.” She remembers thinking, “What does fluffy mean?” And realized that it meant fat, overweight … you know the drill.

When she got back to college, something clicked in her and she started working out. In the beginning though, Brandi worked out like so many of us do – she’d work out for 45 minutes and then reward herself with a treat, like a milkshake. 

Eventually, Brandi started to correct this and started removing “unnecessary” things from her diet. Over time, she became vegan, and then became a spin instructor, then a certified trainer, and then a fitness competitor.

To Brandi, her dad calling her “fluffy” wasn’t damaging to her self-esteem. Instead, it awakened the giant within.

“Everybody has a giant inside of them. It just takes a nudge or a word for it to wake up. That’s what the word ‘fluffy’ was for me.” – Brandi Harvey 

Brandi says, “At first, I wanted my father’s approval and for him to say I wasn’t fluffy. But then I realized, No, I want to be healthy and I want to live my life to the highest, fullest potential I possibly can.”

That word and her decision have set Brandi on a path that’s taught her how to heal herself. Since then, she’s learned how to heal her body, mind and spirit, and says she’s in better health now at 35 than she was at 15.

You Only Get One Body

For many people, they’re like Brandi was in the beginning – they need a reward for working to earn something.

But here’s the thing, you get one body – that’s it.

God has blessed you with one temple to take care of. For many of us, when we hear the idea of our body as being a temple, and we equate it to sex. You know, “Be careful who you sleep with because your body is a temple.” You’ve probably heard that before or, “Don’t drink or smoke because your body is a temple.”

But what we put into our body and how we maintain and care for our temple is equally as important, and it’s usually something that’s not talked about.

Think about it like this, every Sunday after church, there’s either a bake sale, coffee hour or some type of non-healthy meal, right? Yet in church we’re praying for healing of our bodies, minds and aliments, and then the next thing we do is put crap into our bodies, the same crap that’s killing us.

In other words, we’re praying for God to help us with our hypertension or diabetes or cancer – all preventable things – but then we don’t take the preventable measures because to do that requires us to do something different. It requires us to change something that’s not in our wheelhouse necessarily.

The thing is, we know how to heal ourselves. We’ve just forgotten because we’ve also been taught we need a high protein diet, we need meat and we need calcium from milk and cheese.

“What we are putting into our bodies has the ability to heal us or it has the ability to harm us and cause disease.” – Brandi Harvey

Greatness Never Goes on Sale

“You cannot get a discount on greatness – it never goes on sale.” – Brandi Harvey 

Think about this the next time you see one of those insta-quick diets or weight loss solutions. You know the ones – the 8-minute abs or 14-day diet or 21-day challenge. These things are not going to solve your problem. Sure, you may lose weight, but you’ll gain it right back when something triggers you emotionally.

Emotional weight, mental weight, spiritual weight – it’s all connected to your physical weight.

“When I talk about losing weight, I’m not talking about shedding pounds to fit into skinny jeans. No, this is about shedding the weight of life.” – Brandi Harvey 

Many of us want those quick-fixes, but until we make the switch in our mind that it’s not about the physical weight – it’s about what caused the weight – then we stay stagnant or we lose weight and then gain it back.

The Beauty of Silence 

Brandi started her health journey at 19 and now she’s 37. If anything, those 18 years have taught her that physical shape is only one part of the equation. 

As she says, “Until I got my mind and spirit in shape, I had to distance myself and disconnect. I had to get silent. I had to get uncomfortable in order to find out who I really was, and I had to understand that I couldn’t live life for somebody else.”

“Focus on your mental health – that’s when the total shift happens and your life opens up.” – Brandi Harvey 

We owe ourselves silence because through silence, our goals become clear. And when we’re clear on our purpose and what we’re here to do, everything shifts. When we surrender, all bets are off, and we do what we’re here to do. 

To find out more about Brandi and Beyond Her, visit https://beyondher.co/.

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Brandi’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“I define success by the people who I’ve touched, the people who I’ve loved.”

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

“God is infinite.”

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael Alan Singer

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Brandi and the truth about wealth is we define it every day for ourselves.” 

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REWIND: Marshawn Evans Daniels on Believing Bigger

REWIND: Marshawn Evans Daniels on Believing Bigger

September 26, 2019

Have you ever wondered about your purpose, calling and gifts, specifically how to become more aware of them and utilize them in your life? If so, then this is an episode you’re going to love.

We’re doing a rewind this week because this is such an important topic and one that lays the foundation for a lot of the conversations we have at Redefining Wealth. 

Plus, Marshawn Evans Daniels is a powerhouse and I want you to have the opportunity to hear her message again as she talks about her purpose, calling and gifts and how those things have shifted throughout her life. I also want you to hear about her incredible book – Believe Bigger: Discover the Path to Your Life Purpose.

This episode is brought to you by my our first ever LIVE Podcast Taping taking place Sunday, October 13, 2019 in Atlanta, GA. Join us as we meet, greet, connect and record two powerful episodes of Redefining Wealth! Limiting tickets remain. Get yours at www.RedefiningWealthLive.com.

About Marshawn Evans Daniels 

Marshawn Evans Daniels is a Reinvention Strategist, Influence Expert and Best-Selling Author known as The Godfidence® Coach.  

A master in teaching the art of manifestation, this former Sports Attorney, Miss America Finalist and Donald Trump Apprentice, left her full-time job as a stuffy big-firm lawyer and turned her passion for people into a multimillion-dollar enterprise just a few years ago. She helps emerging and established women influencers of faith to Believe Bigger, Live Bigger and Profit Bigger so that they can ultimately Give Bigger.

Featured regularly on CNN, Fox Business and ESPN, Marshawn’s client roster includes HP, Home Depot, Ernst & Young, Delta, Tiffany & Co., Nike, Rolls Royce and NFL & NBA Athlete. She’s also the best-selling author of SKIRTS in the Boardroom and BELIEVE BIGGER: Discover the Path to Your Life Purpose.

Marshawn’s philosophy is – “If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space.”

Purpose Is Not a Checklist

Believe Bigger is about discovering the path to your life’s purpose and one of my favorite parts of the book is when Marshawn says,

“I’m not here to help you find your purpose. I’m here to help you become more aware of it.” – Marshawn Evans Daniels

Purpose is the natural impact and presence your life is meant to have on others. This is the crux of why we are here. 

For Marshawn, to understand her purpose, it took her needing to be in the trenches with people rather than speaking to them from a stage. Most of us, she says, try to look at our lives through our own lens or through the lens of what other people say and that doesn’t get to the core of our purpose. 

“Purpose is not about platform or reach or fame. It’s about how you’re designed to make the lives of other people better.” – Marshawn Evans Daniels 

Think about purpose like this: What is it about you that if you never got a paycheck or no one ever saw or heard your name you’d do just because it’s you? Purpose, in other words, is more about personality than profession.  

Calling Is Your Assignment

Calling is a specific assignment. You can think of it as a specific mission or objective and throughout life you will have multiple assignments. 

You should look at calling as a seasonal assignment and ask yourself, “What am I being assigned or called to do for this season?” Also, realize it might change. This is where obedience and being open to and aware of God’s voice is absolutely imperative because you might plant roots in soil that God only intended you to plant seeds in.

Gifts – Your God Endowments 

Think about gifts as you would superpowers because your gifts are your superpowers. These are the things God has deposited within you and they’re exclusive to you. 

Our gifts give us clues about our assignments and when we understand our purpose in terms of our personality and essence then we can show up uniquely. For this reason, there’s nobody else on the planet like you. 

There might be multiple people who talk about messaging and branding, but nobody does it the way Marshawn does. They can’t – it’s just not possible. Or take me for example. There are many people who talk about money, but nobody talks about it in exactly the same way I do.

“When we don’t understand that we’re purpose-made, we start to compete and live beneath our calling.” – Marshawn Evans Daniels 

Our gifts, in other words, are great clues to where we’re supposed to be and who we’re supposed to become – we just have to be open to and aware of them.

Do you know what your gifts are? How do they align with your calling and purpose? Please share with us and let us know your biggest takeaways.

Visit https://marshawn.com/ to find out more about Marshawn and Believe Bigger.

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Marshawn’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“More people who get to spend eternity with me and me with them.”

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

“More than enough.”

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

The Bible, particularly the book of Proverbs and the story about Joseph when he went from the pit to the palace.

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Voice, and for me, true wealth is about speaking life and being a catalyst so that new life can come forth.”

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Olanikee Osi: What’s Wrong With Being Selfish?

Olanikee Osi: What’s Wrong With Being Selfish?

September 19, 2019

If I asked you to define what it means to practice self-care and self-love what would you say? The key to all “practices” is you decide what they mean for you. For example, my definition of self-care could be wildly different from yours and neither of us would be wrong.

When I sat down with Vanessa White, known as Olanikee Osi, the CEO and Founder of Goddess Detox Inc., and SelfishBabe, I asked her to define self-care, self-love and what it means to be selfish. I also asked her why she thought so many women struggle with the idea of being selfish and asked her what we could do to change that. 

Listen in as Olanikee and I dive into the topic of selfishness and discover new ways you can embrace “being selfish” to enhance your self-care, self-love and overall health and wellness. 

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About Olanikee (Ola-Nee-Kay) 

Olanikee is the CEO and Founder of both Goddess Detox Inc. and SelfishBabe – two brands dedicated to self-love.

She’s a self-love manifestor who helps women around the world, including herself, develop ways to love themselves by being more selfish and authentic in their lives. She also believes if you truly want something you can get it – you just have to make it happen.

How Do You Define Selfish?

As women, many of us struggle too much with the idea of being selfish. But one of the things I believe most is that nothing has meaning except for the meaning we assign it.

For example, when people think about the word selfish, they often think of it in terms of lacking consideration for others. This is what you’d find in the dictionary. But I always encourage people to go deeper, and when I thought about what it meant to be selfish, I saw concern for one’s own personal profit or pleasure.

“Being selfish is about being honest with yourself and truly loving yourself. Self-love is selfish.” – Olanikee Osi 

Olanikee believes too many women struggle with the idea of being selfish because society tells us as women that we need to be taking care of others in order to feel fulfilled. In other words, we’re taught to nurture other people like we would the baby dolls so many of us grew up caring for.

Be Unapologetically Selfish

Self-love is about more than going to the nail salon or spending an hour in the bath. It’s about your mindset, and it’s about understanding and committing to putting yourself first.

For the SelfishBabe app, Olanikee knew she wanted to create something where women could feed their mind and change their mindsets. She wanted to motivate them and give them the push they needed to take action on their ideas. 

“Me choosing myself is going to be the best decision for both of us.” – Olanikee Osi 

Many of you know my story – how I lost everything in the recession and ended up sleeping on my brother’s couch. But what you don’t know is a couple of years later he needed to borrow money and I said no.

My family couldn’t believe it, but I knew what I was being called to do and I knew if let him borrow all the money I’d saved, I wouldn’t be able to do the things I needed to do. 

In other words, had I not taken that moment to be selfish and to put myself first, then I would have let myself down. And people may not get it in the moment, but it’s not for them to get. It’s for us to start to stand up and be unapologetically selfish.

This Ain’t Ya Mama’s Self Help

The SelfishBabe app uses choice language, but what I always tell people is, “You can’t miss the message because you get caught up in the minutia.” For me, I love my Christian music, but I also love my Snoop Dogg – to me, the app is a bit like that.

It’s a safe space for young women and it meets them where they are in life and in a way that feels good for them.

Olanikee agrees and said she created the app the way she did because personal development doesn’t have to look any one way. She wanted it to feel like your friend was talking to you, and wanted it to be relatable, fun and something that would get you engaged.

“The SelfishBabe app is the home-girl who’s going to boost you up and be real with you at the same time.” – Olanikee Osi 

SelfishBabes are learning to selfishly love themselves. They get daily affirmations sent to their phone and whether they say them out loud or not, they read them and that plays into the subconscious mind telling them they can do this.

Are you ready to be more selfish? What’s one thing you would do right now for yourself? Share with us in the comments. 

And visit https://www.olanikeeosi.com/ to find out more about Olanikee, the Goddess Detox and SelfishBabe.

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Olanikee’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“The understanding that I have the power to create my reality.”

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

“An abundance mindset.”

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Scovel Shinn

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Olanikee Osi and the truth about wealth is that we all have access to it.”

LINKS:

Remember to Download the Selfish Babe app today!

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2 Year Anniversary- You Don’t Need to Be a Ten

2 Year Anniversary- You Don’t Need to Be a Ten

September 12, 2019

Growing up as an African American woman, I often heard that I had two strikes against me: being Black and being born female. Neither of which I had any control over. In addition to that, I didn’t feel like the prettiest girl in the clique either - another plight beyond my control.

But the things I did have control over? How I dressed, what grades I got, how many achievements I could stack under my name in the Senior yearbook. . . Oh, I ran with that. And I also became addicted to achievement and accomplishments because that was the only way I knew I could be seen, heard, validated and ultimately, in my mind, supported.

The problem with that, however, is that it can create an insatiable need for perfection. And that can sometimes paralyze you from taking the next step until you believe you’re a ten (when in reality, you’ve already been on twenty all along.)

This episode is brought to you by my first ever LIVE Podcast Taping taking place Sunday, October 13, 2019 in Atlanta, GA. Join us as we meet, greet, connect and record two powerful episodes of Redefining Wealth! Limiting tickets remain. Get yours at www.RedefiningWealthLive.com. 

 

Two Year Podcast Anniversary

As I reflect on how much has happened in the last two years since launching the Redefining Wealth Podcast, I can tell you that this journey has been far from perfect and yet one of the absolute most rewarding endeavors of my life. I’m not sure if I’ve ever felt this supported.

Two years ago, I imperfectly “threw together” what would become the platform that has attracted some of the most incredible human beings into my life (guests and listeners alike.) I have grown as a leader, a friend, a mentor, a coach, a speaker, an interviewer, a wife, a mother and most importantly as a bold woman of faith.

“Time flies when you’re walking in purpose.” – Patrice Washington 

 A Message From The Heart

This heartfelt episode has no fancy structure or clever theme. There’s not 3 solid tips for everyone to chase purpose or start a podcast. This is one of those, “I’m in my feelings today and I had to tell you from the heart that it’s real” type of episodes.

What I pour my heart into each week for you is real.

How much I genuinely care for people I may never meet is real.

When I say I’m humbled and grateful for y’all, it’s real.

To say that I’m honored, is an understatement because it’s just that real.

I am connected to my audience in a way that I don’t think many people understand. So when there’s something heavy on my heart, I’ve learned to abandon on the rules and just get to what’s real.

“If there’s something on your heart you feel called to do, please do not wait until you feel perfect.” – Patrice Washington  

Flaw-filled -NOT Flawless

What’s real for me right now is reflecting on the last 24 months and celebrating the good, as well as the bad and recognizing in all of that, amazing work could still be accomplished.

Someone recently commented that I was flawless, to which I replied, “I’m flaw FILLED and the incredible part about that is God can still use me to create significant impact.” The audio hasn’t always been tight, the social media schedule can get wonky and I’ve had to switch podcast editing teams abruptly multiple times and yet, people were served.

He has no desire for our perfection and there’s no need for us to be a perfect ten. He just wants our heart, our gifts and our commitment to surrender.

“You’re not required to be flawless. You can be flaw FILLED and still create significant impact.” – Patrice Washington 

Let this quicker than usual episode serve as your reminder to push past the excuses, doubt and perfection that threatens to stifle your wildest dreams. Choose to trust that if you’re being called to something, you’re also being equipped daily to handle it and that any other conversation is a distraction from your destiny. 

Thank you for two years, ONE MILLION downloads and the biggest blessing of my professional career. I’m excited about what the next 12 months have in store for all of us.

LINKS:

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Vipul Bhesania: The Art of Intentional Networking

Vipul Bhesania: The Art of Intentional Networking

September 5, 2019

Vipul Bhesania: The Art of Intentional Networking

 

How committed are you to building meaningful relationships when it comes to networking? For many entrepreneurs, it comes down to the number of business cards they can put in people’s hands at a networking event. While others may get the courage to send that follow-up email or otherwise “shoot their shot,” but then give up at the first sign of rejection.

 

But shoving business cards in people’s hands or giving up after rejection is not how Vipul Bhesania approaches networking. In fact, he’s completely intentional when it comes to networking. And I, for one, am thrilled to sit down with the host of the Know Your Legacy podcast to unpack how he has been able to cultivate such meaningful relationships with some of the top names in business.

 

In this episode, Vipul shares his own networking struggles and how he shifted his approach to overcome them. He also reveals how he has been able to connect with the hearts of influencers – all without having a huge platform.

 

This episode is brought to you by the Redefining Wealth LIVE podcast taping in Atlanta on Sunday, October 13th! Pick up some gems of wisdom and meet Purpose Chasers from all over. Limited Tickets available at RedefiningWealthLive.com!

  

About Vipul Bhesania

 

At just 26, Vipul is living proof that wisdom is not determined by age. In a day where social media has all but snatched away the human element in business connections, Vipul’s concise, yet intentional approach to networking and relationship building is the reason I agreed to be a guest on his podcast.

 

As the host of a 5-star-rated podcast, Know Your Legacy, Vipul is known for capturing fascinating conversations with legends all over the world to help people find their passion and purpose in life.

 

Be So Purposeful They Can’t Ignore You

 

“People are attracted to the mission, not the ‘man’.” – Vipul Bhesania  

 

Have you ever sent an email to an influencer or a thought leader only to get zero response? And then you send a follow-up email or direct message and that, too, goes into a black hole of silence?!

 

To top it off, you see them connecting with your peers and colleagues – making you wonder, “What’s wrong with me?”

 

Vipul says that your ability to get people to answer your messages and respond positively to your requests is directly linked to your energy and intentions. And from there, you must use the appropriate tactics at the right time which involves tapping into what’s most important to the person you’re reaching out to.

 

He goes on to talk about how, over the past year, he has discovered that the real secret sauce to cultivating real relationships is not centered around tactics or spamming people with emails, it’s about having a deep understanding of why we do what we do and allowing that to drive how we interact with others.

 

So, by getting clear on his mission and purpose, he’s been able to attract the right guests to his podcast and connect with thought leaders and influencers in a more meaningful way.

 

Serve First

 

“If you can’t share contacts, if you can’t give your wealth of experience (because you don’t have any) or if you can’t give your money, the two things you can give are time and attention.” – Vipul Bhesania 

 

We have an abundance of time – 24 hour every day – that we can choose how to spend, says Vipul. He goes on to say, when it comes to attention, people are just not present enough to show they’ve done “their homework” and have taken the time to get to know the thought leader before reaching out to ask for something.

 

Vipul’s approach includes not only researching the brand but also to gaining an understanding of what suits the influencer, what he/she is passionate about AND what you can bring to the table to push that person’s efforts forward.

 

From Fan to Friend

 

We’ve talked a lot about making the connection and getting someone to respond positively to your request, but what happens after the coffee date, podcast interview or initial connection? Vipul says to take someone from a fan – tagging on social media, posing for a picture – to a friend you can reach out to for some laughs or just great conversation, you must master the art of:

 

“Handing out a feeling not just a business card.” – Vipul Bhesania 

 

See, Vipul doesn’t simply attend networking events or connect on social media to share his contact info or pass out business cards; instead he focuses on handing out a “feeling” – one that makes him memorable.

 

As the late-great Maya Angelou says:

 

“… People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou 

 

And it’s those “feelings” that can turn fans into friends, positioning you to build meaningful relationships with people whether you met them in person at a networking event or via social media.

 

Networking is NOT a Numbers Game

 

Vipul learned through trial and error how not to approach networking as a numbers game. In fact, he shared how his first attempt at reaching out to prospective guests for his podcast failed miserably because he was playing the numbers game.

 

After launching the podcast in January 2018, he spent 6 months reaching out to anyone and everyone who he deemed as a major player in their respective industries. But he recalls as the days and weeks passed his “success” in landing guests plateaued and the moment at which he had to reevaluate his approach.

 

Vipul says he had an interaction with a thought leader who was humble enough to share pivotal information about networking with him.

 

He recalls the thought leader telling him it doesn’t matter where you’re pitching, you need to be straight and to the point. He also told Vipul to never leave someone trying to figure out what to do next.

 

In short, Vipul says to:

 

“Be short, sweet and direct which means putting yourself in their shoes and … determining how you can make it as easy as possible for them to connect with you.” – Vipul Bhesania

 

Value the Relationship

 

“There’s always someone watching you who has the power to bless you.” – Patrice Washington 

 

I’m so impressed with Vipul’s commitment to following up and making the time to cultivate real relationships and how he has truly practiced what he preaches since he first reached out to ask me to be a guest on his podcast.

 

His authenticity actually influenced me to invite him to appear on my podcast before he even asked me for anything. But because it doesn’t always work out like that, I asked Vipul to share his insight on when it’s okay to “make the ask.”

 

Now, he says it should never be in the first interaction because you should always focus on the needs of the other person and how you can bring value to the connection.

 

In fact, he says every interaction thereafter should be about value. However, the awkwardness and discomfort of the “ask,” is usually gone about 2 to 3 conversations in.

 

Here’s why:

 

“If you’ve played your cards right by being authentic and providing the right type of value to them, they will say to you, ‘how can I help you’ and then you tell them at that time.” – Vipul Bhesania 

 

Wow, Vipul dropped so many gems during our discussion that I know they’ll change how you network for the better. But I want to leave you with one final thought that was so good I have to end the summary with it:

 

“You don’t know who knows who in this world, so value every interaction and leave every interaction better than you found it.” – Vipul Bhesania

 

Visit https://soundcloud.com/knowyourlegacy to check out Vipul’s podcast, Know Your Legacy.

Here’s the link to the downloadable gift he promised during our discussion: https://patricewashington.com/buildingalegendarynetwork

 

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

 

And with that, let’s dig into Vipul’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

 

Define Success:

“Enjoying the process of your life as it unfolds.”

 

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

“It starts internally.”

 

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

The Art of Living by Bob Proctor

 

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Vipul Bhesania and the truth about wealth is you have to experience it internally before you see it externally.”

 

LINKS:

 

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To check out ALL of our past guests + episodes: http://www.patricewashington.com/Listen

 

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast, email us at info@seekwisdomfindwealth.com.

 

Find me in Social Media:

 

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Vadim & Sergei Revzin: Meet The Mentors

Vadim & Sergei Revzin: Meet The Mentors

August 29, 2019

When it comes to understanding how to build a business and what the entrepreneurial journey looks like for many entrepreneurs, The Mentors, Vadim and Sergei Revzin, are here to help.

From their personal story and start to what they’ve seen countless times with other businesses, they’ll share the importance of testing your business idea before quitting your 9-5.

They’ll also share why it’s critical to listen to your market along the way. Join the three of us as we dive deeper into the topic entrepreneurial and all that goes with it.

This episode is brought to you by my free LIVE Master Class training, How to Chase Purpose: 5 Shifts to Help You Acknowledge Your God-Given Gifts, Align with Your Passion and Powerfully Answer the Call on Your Life. To REGISTER, become a  Purpose Chaser at iamaPurposeChaser.com 

About Vadim & Sergei Revzin

Vadim and Sergei Revzin are twin brothers and co-hosts of The Mentors podcast, a weekly show where they share stories about ordinary people who have become extraordinary entrepreneurs. On their podcast, they also break down what it takes to succeed in the critical early days of starting a business. 

Vadim is an Entrepreneur in Residence at Ethos, a national non-profit. He also teaches entrepreneurship at State University of New York. He’s advised hundreds of startups, and has been both a founder and leader across several early and growth stage startups.

Sergei is a venture investor at the NYU Innovation Venture Fund where he leads the university’s technology investments. He has mentored hundreds of entrepreneurs all over the country, and has been an early employee and founder at tech companies in NYC and Boston.

Make Entrepreneurship More Accessible

On their podcast, Vadim and Sergei are known for using real stories and experiences to transform the complexities of entrepreneurship into something that’s accessible, enjoyable and fun.

And unlike some of the more popular business coaches, these two say it’s okay to step back, take a full-time job when necessary or take a job to enhance a certain skill level because:

“Though we believe in entrepreneurship, you’re not going to be entrepreneurial 100% of the time.” – Vadim and Sergei Revzin 

They also went on to say how everybody they know, young and old, are supplementing their primary focus or full-time job with a side project or new creative pursuit.

The lesson here: The beauty of entrepreneurship is it can manifest itself in many different ways, as well as, there are many different ways to define it. Of course, this is so anyone can let their entrepreneurial gene shine.

First Entrepreneurial Venture

Wow, do you remember your first entrepreneurial venture? Well, Vadim and Sergei recalled wanting to start a company of some sort back in their college days. BUT, they knew nothing about running or business or even where to start.

But after hearing a story about a man from the United Kingdom who’d ventured into the world of advertising and made a million dollars, they started to think about the importance of leveraging advertising and social platforms for business growth. So, they decided to use that idea as their first steps into entrepreneurship.

Now, with the idea in hand, they found an engineer on campus who had the skills to execute their idea – someone who wanted to be a partner in their business.

And while they turned down the offer of partnership, a decision they now regret,  they did learn a valuable lesson that has followed them throughout their entrepreneurial journey:

“One hundred percent of 0 is 0 and it’s okay to give away equity if it increases the chances of your success significantly, especially if you find someone who will complement the skill.” – Vadim and Sergei Revzin 

Listen to Your Market

Now, Vadim and Sergei were so confident about their brilliant idea that they worked with engineers for months to build a prototype all before ever talking to their audience. And that was a major mistake. 

Products and services are created for the audience. This means, no product or service can be “perfect,” brilliant or deemed a game-changer until AFTER the market validates it as such.

Take me, for example, I now have a program called Purpose to Platform and at one point I shared messaging that was very strong around saving for your kids’ college days and saving for your family, and then I realized after doing a survey with the audience that over 70% of them didn’t have any children.

Here’s what we’ve all learned during our entrepreneurial journey:

“It takes a desire to intimately want to understand and serve the people you’re targeting.” – Patrice Washington 

Choose Productive Over Pretty

The last topic Vadim and Sergei touched on was the idea that people waste so much time doing the pretty things in their business – logos, web design brand colors, photo shoots – because, as humans, we default to the things we’re most comfortable with.

Now, this discussion was so real that you’ll have to tune in to catch all the gems, but I will share this major lesson:

“If at least once a week you’re not doing something that creates revenue, you’re not going to be able to do it full-time.” – Vadim and Sergei Revzin

And with that, I’d love to hear from you. What are your biggest takeaways from my conversation with Vadim and Sergei? What questions do you have? And how do you plan to use the tips they gave in your business?

Visit https://thementors.co/ to find out more about Vadim and Sergei and The Mentors Podcast.

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Vadim and Sergei’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

Vadim: “It’s about having more interesting experiences. I’m fulfilled if I’m continually experiencing new things.”

Sergei: “Personal happiness and satisfaction. If I’m able to have the impact I want in the world and balance that with my family and loved ones, that’s success.”

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

Vadim & Sergei: “One word: Contentment.”

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

Vadim: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie 

Sergei: Losing My Virginity by Richard Branson

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Vadim and the truth about wealth is the most rewarding moments are when you see you have made an impact on somebody else, even if it’s just one other person.”

“My name is Sergei and the truth about wealth is if you chase it head-on, it’s elusive. If you focus on value creation instead, more often than not, wealth will come in the form of contentment of financial gains.”

LINKS:

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To check out ALL of our past guests + episodes: http://www.patricewashington.com/Listen 

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast, email us at info@seekwisdomfindwealth.com

Find me in Social Media: 

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Amanda LittleJohn: Package Your Genius

Amanda LittleJohn: Package Your Genius

August 22, 2019

Everyday I speak to women and men who sell themselves and their gifts short. We’re often hardworking and talented, but for some reason we still develop a need to over complicate the path to offering and profiting from our gifts. 

We think we have to be exhaustively perfect and over prepare our gifts to justify them, but that’s not true. Instead, all we really need to do is show up and get out of our own way. 

In today’s episode, Amanda Miller Littlejohn and I will dive deeper into the topic of personal branding and visibility. We’ll cover everything from Amanda’s personal story to finding your purpose and packaging your genius.

Join us as Amanda reveals the importance of your message and how your visibility isn’t about you, but about the difference it makes to someone else.

This episode is brought to you by my free LIVE Master Class training, How to Chase Purpose: 5 Shifts to Help You Acknowledge Your God-Given Gifts, Align with Your Passion and Powerfully Answer the Call on Your Life. To REGISTER, become a  Purpose Chaser at iamaPurposeChaser.com 

About Amanda Miller Littlejohn

Amanda Miller Littlejohn is a nationally-recognized top expert in personal branding. The author of her personal branding playbook, Package Your Genius, she is an idea maven, brand problem solver and creative powerhouse working at the intersection of public relations, journalism, marketing and social media.

As a former print journalist, along with her training and passion as a writer,  Amanda uses her unique storytelling lens and reporting skills to help her clients uncover and subsequently share better brand stories.  

A highly sought-after speaker, trainer and writer, Amanda regularly speaks to groups of business owners, students and women on personal branding, public relations and social media. She regularly shares her expertise with media outlets like the Washington Post, Forbes, Huffington Post and Sirius XM.

She can be reached at http://www.amandamillerlittlejohn.com/.

A Pivot from Journalism to Entrepreneurship

Amanda and I found ourselves in a similar place during the Great Recession. We were both unemployed with newborns. I asked her to share about her experience and how it led to her pivoting from a career in journalism to starting her own business.

She’d been thinking about transitioning from the journalism space into something else and at the time and knew writing was her gift and strength, as well as, something people needed and something that they’d pay for.

She started out with writing by approaching small public relations firms and small businesses she thought might need help with writing proposals or with client work, but that didn’t need a full-time, in-house writer.

Essentially, she cold called to the top by contacting everyone she knew to see if they needed a writer or if they knew someone who did. 

And I did the same to jumpstart my speaking career years ago.

“Your purpose found you as you were in action.” 

So many people think there’s a magic formula, but Amanda I agree there’s not. It takes knocking on doors, making phone calls and sending emails that get no response.

Package Your Genius

In Amanda’s book, Package Your Genius, there’s a place where she says her dad was the smartest person she’d ever met and the smartest person you’d never heard of.

That is what planted the seed for Amanda to do this work called personal branding or visibility. She didn’t think it was fair that someone who had so many gifts and talents wasn’t able to flip those gifts and talents when he needed to flip them.

In other words, he had a job and that job got plenty out of him, but when it came time for him to take the next step and leverage all he knew and had learned through decades of work, he didn’t understand how to put himself out there. 

“When you work for years to become good at something, the inability to market yourself shouldn’t be the thing between you and success.” 

Amanda found her gift in helping people like her dad who were really great at what they did, but not great at putting it into words. She’s dedicated her life to giving them the marketing tools and confidence they needed to get out there. 

“Your gift is not about you; it’s about how you will be used to change the lives of other people.” 

Think about it like this: If just one person needs to hear what you have to say and your message could potentially plant a seed that could change their life, who are you to focus on your nerves or anxiety? 

This is much bigger than how you feel. When I think about it like this, it helps me get over myself and my fears very quickly.

The Effortless State of Being is Purpose

In Package Your Genius, Amanda says, “The effortless state of being is purpose and you don’t have to dress it up to sell it. You don’t have to dilute the gift by overcomplicating it. You don’t have to make yourself anxious perfecting and preparing yourself to justify it. You just have to show up, get out of the way and allow yourself to be the channel that you are.”

Amanda believes that problems arise when we mistake our talent and skills with purpose. So just because we’re good at something doesn’t mean that’s what we’re supposed to be doing with our time. 

If you’re naturally gifted and talented, and if you work hard at everything you do, then after a while you’ll probably get pretty good at it, right?

We see a lot of people who have several things they can do well. And we also see other people – parents, family members, bosses – say you have a talent and push you in a certain direction because you’re good at doing something. But it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s what you’re meant to be doing.

It doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s your purpose. You’re the only one who can dial into the purpose piece and you can do that by asking and looking at where you’ve been energized in the past.

What work lights you up? What people light you up? What audiences do you enjoy serving? Who do you want to connect with? Who do you like being around? What do you want to build your life around and be known for? These are all questions you need to ask yourself.

We unpack a LOT in this episode and know you’ll get value whether you’re an entrepreneur looking to build your empire or an executive looking to climb that corporate ladder.

What are your thoughts on personal branding and visibility? Do you agree with all that Amanda has said? What were you biggest takeaways and how will you use these things to shift your brand and business?

Visit http://www.amandamillerlittlejohn.com/ to find out more about Amanda and Package Your Genius.

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Amanda’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“Success is doing what’s inside of me and impacting the people and audiences I care about the most.”

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

“To die, empty.”

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Amanda and the truth about wealth is it’s available to everyone and it’s available to you at any time.”

LINKS:

To advertise on the podcast: http://www.patricewashington.com/podcastads

Become an Official Purpose Chaser: http://www.iamapurposechaser.com 

Join Patrice’s Pod Club: http://www.patricespodclub.com 

To check out ALL of our past guests + episodes: http://www.patricewashington.com/Listen

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast, email us at info@seekwisdomfindwealth.com

Find me in Social Media: 

Our podcast hashtag is #RedefiningWealth 

Instagram: @SeekWisdomPCW 

Twitter: @SeekWisdomPCW 

Facebook: @SeekWisdomPCW 

YouTube: @SeekWisdomPCW

Gerald Washington: Don’t Just Start a Business, Build an Empire

Gerald Washington: Don’t Just Start a Business, Build an Empire

August 15, 2019

What does it mean to be an empire builder? What needs to shift in your mindset for you to go from an employee or entrepreneur to an empire builder? And, how can you best set yourself up for success? 

We’re covering all these questions and more on today’s episode with Gerald Washington, my husband, for the release of his book Don’t Start a Business, Build an Empire.

In this episode, we’re going deep into this idea of empire building, where Gerald shares our personal story, explains concepts from his book and gives practical advice for building your empire.

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About Gerald Washington

When he’s not building his own empire, Gerald Washington is using his leadership, innovation and business acumen to empower others to move beyond being just another entrepreneur to becoming their own empire builder.

His passion for business and entrepreneurship didn’t start when Gerald was the partner and president of Steve Harvey World Group, nor did it start just after college when he launched a boutique real estate company with his then girlfriend and future wife, Patrice, a business venture that would help him build a multi-million dollar real estate empire by his mid-20s.

It actually began when he was in high school and created a 5-figure business as a teenager. Which you’ll hear more about shortly.

Today his genius is turning missed opportunities for others into thriving empires – he is all about sharing his experiences and wisdom to help others find the wealth that he has gained through his own love of the game of wealth. 

You see, his own empire includes multiple multi-unit real estate holdings, a transportation company, brand management agency and now a transformational portfolio with his own speaking, co-coaching programs and a new book, Don’t Just Start a Business, Build an Empire. 

Our Story from Gerald’s Perspective

I talk about our story a lot on the podcast, but Gerald doesn’t. So one of the things I asked him to cover was telling our story from his perspective.

Here’s what he has to say:

Before the 2008 Recession, Patrice and I had a thriving real estate empire. We were very successful in what we knew, but we’d neglected to have a guide or mentor to give us advice. So, when the real estate market took a turn, we weren’t prepared for it because, one, I wasn’t watching the market and wasn’t aware of what was happening, and two, I didn’t have anyone to talk to about it besides my peers.

And so the market crashed and without a road map or guide, we lost it all. 

At that point we went to New Orleans to try and hold onto the last of our properties, and it became very clear that I needed to get a job by any means necessary. I went to McDonald’s, Burger King and Hardee’s, but they all told me no. I then went to Taco Bell and said, “Listen, whatever job you have, I’ll take it. I’ll clean toilets, I’ll work food prep, I’ll run the register, whatever you need me to do.” And they gave me a job.

“I went from a 7-figure business owner to working at Taco Bell and making about $2,400 a month.”

I was so grateful for that job though, because it gave us some stability. After nine months in New Orleans, I followed Patrice to Atlanta and was able to work at a Taco Bell there. 

Fortunately for us, Patrice was working for the Steve Harvey Show and had built a relationship with the people there. It was through that connection that I was offered an opportunity to watch Steve’s manager’s house every night while they were having construction done. 

I did that for three months, but what I also did was notice things. I’d walk around the house at night and make notes of the construction that’d been done during the day and I’d communicate these things with the homeowner – noting things he might want to look at or ask about. What I didn’t know was by doing this, I was essentially interviewing for a potential job in the future, which I got when the Steve Harvey Show asked me to come work in the office. . . 

Listen in for more of that story, but we also tackle why Gerald decided to write Don’t Start a Business, Build an Empire.

According to him it takes the same energy to develop the concept for a business as it does to create the concept for an empire – the only difference is mindset. And with the right mindset, you can expand what you consider to be your entrepreneurial effort into something that can become a global empire if you’re willing to look at things like expansion, sustainability and allowing others to participate in the conversation.

So I wrote the book to help shift the mindset of entrepreneurs out there who can’t see the empire just yet.

“Unfortunately, many of us don’t look at how to expand our entrepreneurial efforts beyond us running things.” 

We also tackle Gerald’s thoughts behind many entrepreneurs going in circles – over-thinking, over-creating and attempting to over-deliver, but the end result is they spend too much effort and energy and put themselves under too much unnecessary stress.

He says, “We do a great job of over-complicating the simple things, and in-turn lose profitability. Take In-N-Out Burger for example. They have three options with the burger purchase – with French Fries, Coke products or a milkshake, and their lines are out the door. They’re thriving and simple.”

Now, take The Cheesecake Factory. They have so much crammed onto their menu with hundreds of choices. It’s too much for the consumer and for me, every time I go there, I don’t even read the menu; I just order what I’ve ordered before. 

“Here’s the truth, you don’t need to have 10 offers to be successful, and when you do, you make it hard for people to choose how to work with you.” 

In your business, if you want to add certain items to your “menu,” do it when the time is right, when you’ve perfected the selected things you do offer and then do it sporadically so the consumer gets excited about it and there’s a supply and demand to it.

Listen to the full episode for more gems on building your empire and learn more about Gerald Washington by visiting www.GeraldWashington.com or follow on Instagram at @empirebuildergw.

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Gerald’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“Happiness.” 

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

“Freedom from a job.”

One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth:

The Richest Man in Babylon” by George S. Clason

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Gerald Washington and the truth about wealth is that it is not tied to money.” 

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